I smile and sigh every time I see this commercial. I want to tell this guy: Trust me, you’ll need that year!
I’ve been a tutor and educator my entire life, but there was also a ten-year stretch where I was a professional relationship coach and matchmaker.
Matchmaking operates at the intersection of Love in its most idealized form, and Reality at its most stark. Matchmakers and most online dating sites specialize in the Romantic Dream: “finding that special someone” and then “living happily ever after.”
Have you ever filled out an enrollment questionnaire for any of these services? You tell them all about “who you are” and “what you are looking for” in a partner. From there it should be a simple matter of matching you with singles who meet your criteria and vice versa. You’ll meet a few eligible people and soon, with one of them, mutual chemistry will click in, and viola! The relationship you’ve always dreamed of!
Never say never. During my matchmaking decade I saw it happen just like this plenty of times. But, truth be told, most people need that year, and most likely they’ll need more than just a year.
Here’s what you’ll need that year for:
I’ve given this same advice countless times, but it’s much easier for me to say than for people to follow.
Why is finding the right relationship so difficult?
Why do people often rush to find new partners?
What are your thoughts, questions, advice?
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Last reviewed: 9 Feb 2010