Archives for June, 2010
I have to share this tool, it is my new toy and it is free great for both kids and adults! For those of you out there that sing, want to sing, enjoy singing, want to improve your singing, or need to shout out some energy there is a tool I just found a fantastic tool on MySpace - Karaoke. Please don't let the 'MySpace' brand deter you, it is truly for all ages, easy to use, fun, and can be for your ears only so you don't need to ever be embarrassed. The tool has many different genres of music, so there is sure to be something for most people. It is great for all ages and it is easy to figure out. You pick a song, hit record with your mouse, and sing according to the words on the screen. You can also listen to the artist sing it if you need a refresher before you jump into song.
Seriously. Write to do lists, don't check e-mails in the morning, take your meds, pay the bills on Friday, go to the gym every day, send love to all, don't criticize... blah blah blah. That is how I feel some days, like it's just.... too much! Being an adult is hard work. With foreclosures climbing, jobless rates higher, more bills to pay, everything costing more... it sometimes gets a little too much to be responsible and good. We get caught up in all of it and it's completely overwhelming. How do we get out of it?
If you as much open your eyes these days, you will find something that has the potential to become addictive; televisions, text messaging, facebook, and the Internet, not to mention the drugs, alcohol, porn, and other things we more classically define. We are bombarded with marketing messages, news, personal influences and distractions -- it is almost impossible to escape the ever pressing suggestion of more, better, faster and easier. For those with ADHD, our impulsivity can make it particularly challenging to continuously defend ourselves from this bombardment of diversions. It's why I found William Glasser’s theory on the concept of Positive Addiction so interesting, and why I felt the need to learn more about it and discuss with all of you.
A comment on a post last week got me thinking, when are we really taught the difference between healthy anger and abuse? How do we express our anger appropriately? Luckily, I have had many years of practice and learned from some of the best trained experts in the field, so while I definitely have not perfected it, I do know about it. The most amazing work on fighting fair is based on Imago Therapy / Imago Principles. It was developed by a man by the name of Harville Hendrix, and I have learned from a number of brilliant therapists trained by him including Rick Brown, who has appeared several times on Oprah. It is an actual type of dialogue, and while it is extremely difficult to get the hang of doing and you often feel silly doing it, the world of relating in business, marriages, and family relationships can open to you if you practice.
Anger is a very scary emotion and often silently prohibited in society. We don't like to be 'out of control' in an angry way, and often times we hide our anger to ourselves and others because it scares us. Uncontrolled and unexpressed anger generally leads to violence as we have learned throughout history so it makes sense we see it as 'bad'. I've found through time and experience that it doesn't have to be that way, and in fact the more than we run from it the more that it pops up when we least want it to! That certainly never gets anyone anywhere.
I'm now embarrassed for my earlier post with my 'decision matrix' that many of you e-mailed me to check out. While I think it is still a valuable tool, and maybe can be done in conjunction with this new one, I think this new one alone is a pretty valid way to figure out what will make you happiest. It is so simple, yet incredibly accurate. I learned it from a course I took this weekend with Alan Cohen, called The Coin of Destiny. If you haven't checked out his work, I suggest you do, as he has profound insights in a number of ways. OK, so here is the new process to try out for making a decision:
I'm exhausted. Quite literally. I'm downsizing, and once again have realized I have too much 'stuff'. So I did something crazy -- I went through every single thing I have, figured out if I REALLY wanted it, and whatever I didn't I kept right there and had a sale. But for this sale, I decided I wanted to donate it all to a charity for depression (iFred). So I moved everything I wanted, really wanted, to keep. And then opened my doors to a sale. Let me tell you, this is one of the smartest things I have ever done.