[caption id="attachment_514" align="alignleft" width="160"] Greig’s Caves, Bruce Peninsula, Ontario, Canada
Photo Zoë Kessler, 2009[/caption]

You think you’ve got sex problems? We want too much. We don’t want any. We’re halfway to heaven, a fly walks across the wall and we’ve lost it.

As if living with ADHD wasn’t problematic enough, our symptoms often (or, more likely, nearly always) interfere with our sex lives as well.

If sex, as they say, is 90% in the mind, imagine my surprise when I cracked open Naomi Wolf’s new book, Vagina: A New Biography (2012), to find Chapter 4 was all about the brain chemistry of sex.  What really got me excited was the title: “Dopamine, Opioids, and Oxytocin.”

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Got Dopamine? Sex and the ADHD Woman

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  1. Thanks for the read Zoe, it was enlightening to say the least. I think many men suffer, or at least I do, with a neglible reward system. It could be a combination of my, now understood, lifelong depression and the ADHD, but the stimulants dont do much for my reward circuitry either. Got Dopamine? I’d love to have some!

  2. That makes perfect sense! As a woman who suffers from Depression, ADHD,and SPD (Sensory Processing Disorder) it’s no wonder sex has been at the forefront of my marital conflicts. Given all the studies that have been done on the connection between ADHD and SPD, it would be interesting to see what effects SPD has on sex drive/libido. I have struggled with my sex drive since my first sexual experience and find that the most difficult part is letting go of my insecurities and shutting out all the background noise (Auditory Processing Disorder) which constantly distracts me. Another problem is getting arosed in the first place, which I know most women need more than just “hey hun, want to have sex?”. My best remedy for that was the ‘Fifty Shades of Grey’ trilogy by E. L. James. It made me realize how much more important the mental aspect is over the physical.

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