I’m so glad I met you.
Before we met, I was completely lost.
I admit it: there were many others before you. In my 20s, I flirted with alcohol. I came to realize this wasn’t a healthy relationship. I tried smoking, but I knew that that relationship would eventually kill me.
Our relationship is different; I’m happier. I’m healthier. And I’m still getting to know you. There is so much more to learn! But one thing’s for sure: I believe you and I can grow together. And I know we’re together for life. This may sound overly dramatic, but I can’t live – really live – without you.
Before posting, please read our blog moderation guidelines. The comments below begin with the oldest comments first. Click on the last comments page to jump to the most recent comments.
Before posting, please read our blog moderation guidelines.
Post a Comment:
Copyright © 1995-2013 Psych Central. All rights reserved.
Site last updated: 19 May 2013
|
Awsome! I want to compliment you on how you kept up with music and writing despite your symptoms. I have chosen the no drug way, but might change as a result of the freedom you describe that has come from treatment. I am always feeling controlled perhaps because the condition has placed control over me and my aspirations. Cardio has kept me going, but there is only so much you can do in a day. Plus, I’m getting older. I love music. I gave up piano and guitar in my youth. I’ve been saying for years that I want to pick it up again and I fail. I don’t have the patience or the motivation. I admire how you were able to keep all that going. I think this condition takes a grip on all the best you could be. It really does, damned it. I have read a couple books. Currently I’m reading Dr.Bilkey’s book a bit at a time. It is really crippling when you start to understand your past and ADHD and start to unravel the whys and why nots.
Hi Jane.
Hey, don’t forget, life isn’t perfect for me either! I think the main thing is that we JUST DON’T GIVE UP. Ever. I know you say you don’t have the patience or motivation, but I would really encourage you to read the parts in Drs. Bilkey and Surman’s book about these two topics. Go to the index and look up “motivation;” p. 153 offers some specific tips, and I know other books about ADHD do too.
Please don’t ever judge yourself for lack of “patience” or “motivation.” These are both brain-based challenges and not your fault. In fact, “Motivationally challenged” is what the “M” in Bilkey’s acronym, FAST MINDS stands for – THAT’s how incredibly important it is, how frequently debilitating it is, to those of us with ADHD. It’s not about our personality or any moral defects. That’s number one.
Number two is: I get the sense that you’re incredibly motivated by the fact that you still yearn to play a musical instrument; that passion and desire has not died. You just need the support, encouragement, and tools to help you achieve that goal. Also, you are reading Dr. Bilkey’s book, reading and writing to my blog posts, and engaging with others by asking (good) questions. All this, and you are intelligently and boldly looking at your own particular situation, challenges, and questioning where you go from here.
With all that going for you, I have no doubt in my mind that whatever you choose to do – to whatever degree you can make it happen – you will!
As always, you know I’m rootin’ for you! And I’m sure many who are reading (and benefiting from) your comments and life stories are too. (we’re generally a pretty good-hearted bunch, us ADHDers, at least in my experience).
So I’ll say it for all of us: YOU GO GIRL! YOU CAN DO IT! And Happy Valentine’s Day!
Lots of love,
Zoë
Zoe,
What a great Valentine’s day tribute to one of the most influential relationships in our lives. I am always so appreciative of how you are able to put words to experiences I’m sure more than just you and I share.
With gratitude, Happy Valentine’s Day
Dan
Thanks, Dan.
It’s so great to know that others can relate to these off-the-wall ideas I sometimes have. Wait! What am I saying!? We have ADHD! Of COURSE we think of wacky ways to connect and express things. I admit writing a love-letter to my ADHD treatment felt a bit um, odd, to say the least, but it came to me in a flash of inspiration, right from the heart.
Anyway, like a cherished lover, we cannot take our ADHD treatment for granted, can we?
Thank YOU for all that you do in helping others improve their relationships with time; with stuff; with others; and ultimately with themselves by offering your services as a coach – and one who “gets” it from the inside out!
Happy Valentine’s Day back atcha my friend.
Warmly,
Zoë
Thank you Zoe. I’m really appreciating your work.
Jane
Sounds familiar. I am an ADHD mom parenting an ADHD daughter. I was undiagnosed until I was dealing with my daughter’s ADHD dx. A big lightbulb moment for me and suddenly a lot about my life and particular struggles made sense. I am hopeful that I can work on building my daughter’s life skills so she can avoid some of the pitfalls I had.
Hi Tara.
Thank you so much for taking the time to comment. I’m excited for you and your daughter as you both work to support each other and journey through ADHD together. You have each other and I’m sure the benefits of that will go both ways.
All the best to you both.
Cheers,
Zoë