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He Said / She Said: Examining the ADHD Life – Relationship Train Wrecks, Part II

Thursday, October 28th, 2010

He Said / She Said - Examining the ADHD Life with Zoë Kessler and Jeff SiegelIn Relationship Train Wrecks, Part I, Jeff and I explored our various estrangements from family, friends, and work colleagues. We talked about our feelings of alienation, strategies for going back in time (or not) to ameliorate past derailments.  Our discussion ended with Zoë ruminating over whether or not to write Christmas cards this year announcing that she’s already received her “Gift:” ADHD.

We pick up the blogchat there.


He Said / She Said: Examining the ADHD Life – Relationship Train Wrecks

Monday, October 25th, 2010

He Said / She Said - Examining the ADHD Life with Zoë Kessler and Jeff SeigelPART I

10:25 am  Zoë   Jeff, I’ve been thinking about how ADHD has impacted my family relationships. Yet again, as Christmas approaches, I find myself composing a letter to my entire family saying, “Hey, guess what? I was diagnosed with ADHD…yadda yadda” and listing the applicable symptoms, in an effort to re-connect, let them know I feel estranged, and try to explain some of my past behaviour. I’m wondering how your own diagnosis relates to your family connections?


He Said / She Said: Examining the ADHD Life – Edifice Wrecks, Part II

Thursday, October 7th, 2010

He Said / She Said - Examining the ADHD Life with Zoë Kessler and Jeff SiegelThis week’s He Said / She Said: Examining the ADHD Life gives a nod to the classic Greek tragedy, Oedipus Rex, by Sophocles. If anyone could wreak havoc, it was ‘ol Oedipus. Sometimes, being ADHD, is no different. Read on, brave reader! And be wary of oncoming ruin!

Edifice: an edifice is, literally, a structure that has a roof and walls and stands permanently in one place. Metaphorically, it is an abstract structure or a complex entity of many parts. We use it here to mean the many complex components that go into keeping one’s life on track (organization, purpose, intent, structure, schedules, planning, etc., etc.)

Wreck: to reduce to a ruinous state

MISS PART I of EDIFICE WRECKS? Click HERE.


He Said / She Said: Examining the ADHD Life – Edifice Wrecks, Part I

Monday, October 4th, 2010

He Said / She Said - Examining the ADHD Life with Zoë Kessler and Jeff SiegelThis week’s He Said / She Said: Examining the ADHD Life gives a nod to the classic Greek tragedy, Oedipus Rex, by Sophocles. If anyone could wreak havoc, it was ‘ol Oedipus. Sometimes, being ADHD is no different. Read on, brave souls! And be wary of oncoming ruin!

Edifice: an edifice is, literally, a structure that has a roof and walls and stands permanently in one place. Metaphorically, it is an abstract structure or a complex entity of many parts. We use it here to mean the many complex components that go into keeping one’s life on track (organization, purpose, intent, structure, schedules, planning, etc., etc.)

Wreck: to reduce to a ruinous state


He Said / She Said: Examining the ADHD Life – Does ADHD Mean You’re Always Saying, “I’m Sorry”? Part II

Thursday, September 23rd, 2010

He Said / She Said - Examining the ADHD Life with Zoë Kessler and Jeff SiegelMissed PART I? Click HERE.

PART II

On Monday, we ended on a cliff-hanger when Jeff asked how much time is enough time for ADHDers to rectify, or overcome,  certain symptoms that cause them to say, time and time again, “I’m sorry.”

11:00am Jeff But seriously…how much time is enough time to rectify a problem? Maybe that’s not really answerable.

We pick up today’s blog post with Zoë’s answer:

11:03am  Zoë  Of course it’s answerable! As much time as you need. I’m not kidding. If I’ve been undiagnosed for 47 years, and have had ADHD since birth…it’s obviously going to take a lot longer than a few weeks or even months to re-train my brain, get strategies in place, build my self-confidence, self-esteem and sense of self-worth, etc., etc.


He Said / She Said: Examining the ADHD Life – Does ADHD Mean You’re Always Saying, “I’m Sorry”? Part I

Monday, September 20th, 2010

He Said / She Said - Examining the ADHD Life with Zoë Kessler and Jeff Siegel If love means never having to say, “I’m sorry,” does ADHD mean ALWAYS having to say “I’m sorry”? Jeff and Zoë explore this question in this week’s He Said / She said series.

Without apology, we present, Part I:

10:38am  Jeff  Does having ADHD mean that you’ll always be saying you are sorry?

I mean…is there always something we screw up that puts us in the “I’m sorry” position?

For example, sometimes we’re extraordinarily late in finishing up a project and you find that you have to say…”I’m sorry.”

10:42am Zoë  I’m a Canadian; I ALREADY have to say I’m sorry all the time! Hee hee hee…sorry…  It’s like having to tease out symptoms in comorbid conditions.


Zoë’s Pet Peeves: ADHD Awareness Week is Over!

Friday, September 17th, 2010

Zoë's ADHD Pet Peeve #28 - ADHD Awareness Week is Over!Bummer. Our week in the spotlight is over.

Hope all of you had a week full of discovery & sharing, and that you did at least ONE exceptionally wonderful thing for yourself this week.

I ended my week on a stellar note: I attended a lecture given by Dr. Timothy Bilkey, a Canadian mover and shaker in the adult ADHD world. In addition to running a clinic for adolescent and adult ADHDers (is there a difference? Just kidding…) Dr. Bilkey has lectured internationally, including such far-flung places as Southeast Asia, Mexico, Greece, Lebanon, and Peru, to name a few.

The highlight for me was hearing him say that ADHD and glue guns don’t mix. I laughed so hard, I was still laughing in the car on the way home.


He Said / She Said: Examining the ADHD Life – Zoë & Jeff on Vay-cay, Part II

Thursday, September 9th, 2010

MISSED PART I? Click HERE.He Said / She Said - Examining the ADHD Life with Zoë Kessler and Jeff Siegel

Today’s He Said / She Said: Examining the ADHD Life, continues to explore the stress of de-stressing à la vacation, ADHD-style. Gather ’round the pool, pull up a deck chair, and enjoy!

10:27am Jeff: Have you noticed the interesting slide we’ve made from a discussion of vacation to a discussion of work? They are like opposite ends of a rubber band and each is moving in the opposite direction!!


He Said / She Said: Examining the ADHD Life – Zoë & Jeff on Vay-cay, Part I

Monday, September 6th, 2010

He Said / She Said - Examining the ADHD Life with Zoë Kessler and Jeff SiegelToday’s He Said / She Said: Examining the ADHD Life, explores the stress of de-stressing à la vacation, ADHD-style.  So get out your sunscreen, grab a Mai-Tai, lay back, and enjoy the trip!

9:56am Jeff: Well…I think I achieved a milestone in my life. I went on vacation and there wasn’t the usual vacation panic. Not sure how I did it…but somehow…I did. How was your recent vacation?

9:57am Zoe: Not so fast! I’m curious about this “wasn’t the usual vacation panic” bit. I think it would be worth it to figure out how you did that, don’t you? Did it have anything to do with the fact that it was actually a WEEKEND (i.e., Saturday and Sunday) and not what most people call a “vacation”? ha ha…


He Said / She Said: Examining the ADHD Life – Answering Questions About ADHD, Part II

Thursday, August 26th, 2010

He Said / She Said: Examining the ADHD Life

© Jeff Siegel, 2010


Did you miss He Said / She Said: Examining the ADHD Life – Answering Questions About ADHD, Part I? Have a look at Questions 1 – 9 HERE.

Today’s post concludes this week’s He Said /  She Said with the final Questions 10 – 17. Enjoy!


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