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Unhappy April Fool’s Day

Tuesday, April 1st, 2014

Day 275: A fellow of infinite jest Tim via Compfight

I’ve been racking my brains trying to figure out why I can’t think of an April Fool’s Day post. I love writing humor, why would this be so hard?

This morning on Twitter one of my wise and wonderful Twitter peeps pointed out the obvious: her ADHD son has been dreading April Fool’s Day for weeks. Aha!

April Fool’s Day with ADHD is no joke.

How can you get creative and have fun with a day that scares the hell out of you? Writer’s block was inevitable.

ADHD: Awesome or Awful? Depends…

Tuesday, March 25th, 2014

Zoë and her birth mom, 2006Zoë and her birth mom, 2006So I’m interviewing an adult with ADHD. His resume is intimidating. He’s brilliant, funny, accomplished. And his ADHD stories are off-the-charts.

Suddenly, impeccable professional that I am, I burst into tears. And no, it’s not because I’m jealous (I am; but that’s not why I’m crying).

The Year in Review: An ADHD Balance Sheet for 2013

Wednesday, December 11th, 2013

ADHD in 2013Using my relatively new-found skills of planning ahead, I’m reviewing 2013 to get a feel for what still needs to be done to educate others about ADHD (and improve my own management of it). I want to know what to focus on in 2014 (if, that is, I manage to focus on anything; it’s been pretty hit-and-miss lately, but hope springs eternal).

This isn’t by any means a comprehensive list, but off the top of my head here’s my balance sheet for 2013.
On the minus side

Some mental health agencies just don’t get it

When I was first diagnosed, I turned to the Canadian Mental Health Association (CMHA) for information and support. Logical choice, right? Not as it turns out.

A staff person at my local branch informed me that they only dealt with SMI’s (serious mental illnesses). Maybe there should be a Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM) “Light” for those conditions that aren’t terribly troublesome. Like, say, ADHD.

There’s More to Be Aware of Than Just ADHD

Thursday, October 17th, 2013

ADHD and anxiety, bipolar, depression and learning disabilitiesMore often than not ADHD comes along with a companion diagnosis. The usual suspects include depression, anxiety disorders, bipolar disorders, and learning disabilities, to name a few.

So far, I’ve only been diagnosed with ADHD. On the other hand, the number and severity of my ADHD traits once caused a friend to pronounce me “President of the Club.” A dubious honor at best.

During ADHD Awareness Month, for those of you struggling with more than just ADHD I thought I’d introduce you to some of my colleagues at Psych Central. If you haven’t already read their blogs, you’re missing out.

ADHD and Attachment – The Aha! Approach

Thursday, June 27th, 2013

Keep it Clean Ahd Photography via Compfight

ADHD doesn’t exist in a vacuum. Which is a darn shame, because if it did, we could just throw out the bag and be done with it.

But no. Sadly, ADHD symptoms are another layer of being human. Even without the ADHD we’d still have some garden-variety insecurities, human frailties and foibles, and perhaps – attachments. (Why am I thinking about the vacuum again? I must need to clean my house).

Webinar – Mother’s Day with ADHD: How to Keep It Happy!

Thursday, May 9th, 2013
Lisa Aro and husband Mark

Lisa Aro and husband Mark

I’m happy to report that our Mother’s Day with ADHD: How to Keep It Happy! webinar went off (almost) without a hitch.

On a personal note, I was terrified before we started. I’d planned to create a visual presentation but only had 3 hours to create it – right before the webinar!

With minimal time, I decided I’d keep it simple, and let the content be the focus of our session. I knew my special guest had great content, having read her excellent blog, Queen of the Distracted, and having had a preliminary phone call to plan what we’d cover in our webinar.

But – what I didn’t count on was for three friends to drop in – all at the same time – and all needing my attention just before the webinar!

Mother’s Day and ADHD – Parenting ADHD Kids

Thursday, May 2nd, 2013

tmy son gives me strength horizontal.integration via Compfight

It appears that my little rant on spanking has struck a mighty chord.

In addition to readers and comments here at my blog, I’ve received a lot of input on my Facebook page and elsewhere from those weighing in on the weighty topic of how the heck do we deal with our ADHD kids?

It’s distressing to see that some of you (and I suspect many more whom I haven’t  heard from) are suffering and agonizing over what the right way to discipline your ADHD children.

The blog comment that tipped the scale was (excerpted here):

“…how in the world do you get an ADHD kid to learn the social skills required to get along in life before their parent finally finally [sic] loses it and spanks them..” [read molbiomom's full Comment here]

How indeed?

Spanking Hurts ADHD Kids More Than You Think, Part II

Friday, April 12th, 2013

The Hidden Beauty! Vinoth Chandar via Compfight

In Spanking Hurts ADHD Kids More Than You Think, Part I, we considered the first 2 of 7 critical factors that suggest that spanking may be especially detrimental to ADHD kids.

Having considered an ADHD child’s heightened sensitivity and their parent(s)’ possible undiagnosed ADHD as two reasons to rule out spanking, let’s move on to the 5 final considerations.

Spanking Hurts ADHD Kids More Than You Think, Part I

Thursday, April 11th, 2013

Alone D. Sharon Pruitt via Compfight

Recently, I read Parenting a Child With ADHD – Is Spanking Helpful? by ADHD expert Keath Low. Low does a good job of explaining why it’s difficult to parent a child with ADHD, and offers some general guidelines on how to do so appropriately.

From my perspective, some critical considerations about whether or not to spank a child with ADHD need to be added to the discussion.

Full disclosure

My mom hit me until I was 17.

6 Benefits of a Later-in-Life ADHD Diagnosis

Tuesday, March 19th, 2013

laura's thinking Paolo Margari via Compfight

Finding the positive side in any situation is something I’m pretty good at. In spite of life’s challenges, I’ve been called “insufferably cheerful” (whatever that means) and consider myself to be irrationally optimistic.

Even so (and even though it’s been over 7 years since my ADHD diagnosis) until recently, I couldn’t really come up with any benefits of being diagnosed later rather than sooner. (Besides the obvious one of life finally making sense.) (Sort of.)

Imagine my surprise when I finally did stumble over a plus.

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