Learning about ADHD late in life has taught me a few things about how I’d like to be treated. There were many times in the past (before my diagnosis) that things might have gone more smoothly if I’d understood myself better, and what I needed from others.
This got me thinking: maybe the way I’d like to be treated would work for others too.
That’s when I came up with my ADHD Golden Rule:
So here’s the promised update (as of the Canadian programming schedule; further episodes have aired elsewhere and, spoiler alert, it looks like Max goes on medication and it helps).
So far we’ve got television and ice cream as two alleged culprits cited as the source of Max’s behavior. The usual suspects. But what do the experts say?
My friend is hooked on Coronation Street; has been for years.
How could I help watching when she and her partner were glued in front of the telly on weekends when I was visiting? I couldn’t be rude, now could I?
So, there we were one evening, me on the loveseat, her in her comfy chair, immersed in Episode 8439 (the show’s been running since 1960).
I’m noticing the over-the-top behavior of eight-year-old Max, son of Kylie and adopted son of husband David.
I know where this is going, I say aloud.
Sure enough, two episodes later, adoptive dad David has set up an appointment with the family doc, against mom Kylie’s wishes. Kylie doesn’t want the kid to have a label. (I’ve already labeled him. Too late, Kylie.)
One of the things I’ve heard the most over the past decade of working in the ADHD field is that it’s extremely difficult to find good information, support, and resources especially in regard to adult ADHD.
I’m sharing a post-event report with you of our recent DOC Institute screening of A Mind Like Mine – An Intimate Portrait of Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder in the hopes that you’ll consider hosting an event like this in your own community.
This free event in Toronto, Ontario consisted of a documentary screening followed by a panel discussion moderated by yours truly. The film covers an amazing amount of ground on adult ADHD while being a gripping drama that takes you on an emotional roller coaster – just like ADHD itself.
I’ve been racking my brains trying to figure out why I can’t think of an April Fool’s Day post. I love writing humor, why would this be so hard?
This morning on Twitter one of my wise and wonderful Twitter peeps pointed out the obvious: her ADHD son has been dreading April Fool’s Day for weeks. Aha!
April Fool’s Day with ADHD is no joke.
How can you get creative and have fun with a day that scares the hell out of you? Writer’s block was inevitable.
Suddenly, impeccable professional that I am, I burst into tears. And no, it’s not because I’m jealous (I am; but that’s not why I’m crying).
Using my relatively new-found skills of planning ahead, I’m reviewing 2013 to get a feel for what still needs to be done to educate others about ADHD (and improve my own management of it). I want to know what to focus on in 2014 (if, that is, I manage to focus on anything; it’s been pretty hit-and-miss lately, but hope springs eternal).
This isn’t by any means a comprehensive list, but off the top of my head here’s my balance sheet for 2013.
On the minus side
When I was first diagnosed, I turned to the Canadian Mental Health Association (CMHA) for information and support. Logical choice, right? Not as it turns out.
A staff person at my local branch informed me that they only dealt with SMI’s (serious mental illnesses). Maybe there should be a Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM) “Light” for those conditions that aren’t terribly troublesome. Like, say, ADHD.
So far, I’ve only been diagnosed with ADHD. On the other hand, the number and severity of my ADHD traits once caused a friend to pronounce me “President of the Club.” A dubious honor at best.
During ADHD Awareness Month, for those of you struggling with more than just ADHD I thought I’d introduce you to some of my colleagues at Psych Central. If you haven’t already read their blogs, you’re missing out.
ADHD doesn’t exist in a vacuum. Which is a darn shame, because if it did, we could just throw out the bag and be done with it.
But no. Sadly, ADHD symptoms are another layer of being human. Even without the ADHD we’d still have some garden-variety insecurities, human frailties and foibles, and perhaps – attachments. (Why am I thinking about the vacuum again? I must need to clean my house).
I’m happy to report that our Mother’s Day with ADHD: How to Keep It Happy! webinar went off (almost) without a hitch.
On a personal note, I was terrified before we started. I’d planned to create a visual presentation but only had 3 hours to create it – right before the webinar!
With minimal time, I decided I’d keep it simple, and let the content be the focus of our session. I knew my special guest had great content, having read her excellent blog, Queen of the Distracted, and having had a preliminary phone call to plan what we’d cover in our webinar.
But – what I didn’t count on was for three friends to drop in – all at the same time – and all needing my attention just before the webinar!