Archives for ADHD Humor
Most of us (thank goodness) aren’t plagued by ADHD in every area of our lives. For example, I’ve heard from women who are successfully managing a law career, but fall apart when it comes to managing their home life. Some have relationship success, but struggle when it comes to meeting deadlines, getting organized, and arriving at work on time.
Who says you can’t have it all?
Don O'Brien via Compfight If I had to list my relationship with time on Facebook, I’d have to choose, “It’s complicated.” Shortly after my late-in-life diagnosis, I learned my ADHD brain was to blame. Sure, it was great to be absolved of time-management guilt, but I was pretty sure the rest of the world would still expect me to arrive on time, ADHD or not, so I poured over ADHD books seeking time-management tips.
Hamish Irvine via Compfight “Forgive me, Father, for I have sinned. My last confession was...” I’m not Catholic, but that whole confession thing speaks to me right now. Let’s try it like this: Forgive me, Dear Readers, for I have sinned neglected my blog. My last confession post was two months, three weeks, and two days ago and these are my sins issues:
Kevin Dooley via Compfight Christmas is a time of abundance. This may be especially true for those of us with ADHD. Yes, there is more chocolate (always a good thing). But there’s also more impulsivity and more serious consequences for the future. Unless you want a diet, an overdrawn bank account, and emotional burnout in your post-holiday future, heightened impulsivity will not serve you well at this time. Whether you’re celebrating Christmas, Hanukkah, Yule, or nothing at all: there’s more. More of being overwhelmed. More distraction. More emotional stress. More disorganization, more time management challenges, more opportunities for social faux pas.
What we do need more ofSo how do we avoid getting more of the ADHD “gifts” that we’d rather return? When asking for gifts this year, just remember that “S” does not just stand for “Santa:” it’s also for simplicity, support, supplements, serenity, and surrender: five things we do need more of.
Sometimes I feel like I don’t have to explain ADHD at all. Just watch me live my life, and you’ll pretty much have it. I don’t mean “have it” as in have it. ADHD, thank goodness, is not contagious (as far as we know, but to watch some people’s reactions when I tell them I’ve got it, you'd think it was). My life is in and of itself a pretty good crash course on how ADHD looks to the outside world. Let me share with you some, we'll call them "highlights" although I'm pretty sure that's not the right term, from last week’s ADHD roadtrip to illustrate what I mean. My mini-speaking tour was truly exemplary when it comes to walking the talk and living la vida loca (which, come to think of it, would make a marvelous theme song for ADHD).
The countdown is on! Seven days are all that's left to change the world for the better. But let me begin at the beginning. Being diagnosed with ADHD at 47 was a revelation. It explained so much about my life, there was no way I could imagine having another experience that paralleled the insights from learning about ADHD (for example, why the only part about Martha Stewart I could understand was the jail part; at the time of my diagnosis I was about five years behind in my income tax).
I keep reading that Robin Williams' death is a shock. Were you shocked? Was I? Yes and no. But mostly, no. Sadly, some of us dealing with mental health issues, personally and in our professional lives, or have loved ones who are, are not as shocked as others seem to be. Within the context of Williams' history, his sudden death is a shock yes, but sadly not as much a shock as if his mental health and addiction challenges had been absent. With the presence of severe depression, addictions, bipolar disorder, or any combination of the above, suicide is not out of the blue, but one of many responses to the pummeling experience of living with these conditions. So often we see that behind the public persona of some of our funniest, most clever, compassionate, kind, and empathetic artists, lies a dark side. I’ve always used humor to overcome, but sometimes to cover my pain. I’m not the first one, and certainly not the only one, to retreat behind a quick succession of jokes and comedic banter when I’m feeling emotionally challenged.
With as much as I know about coaching in theory, and with as many coaches as I know professionally through my work in ADHD, you’d think I’d have a great handle on what, exactly, ADHD coaching is. I don’t. In the past I’ve asked my coach if others he’s worked with talk about similar issues. He assured me that the coaching session is for me, and whatever I want to work on, in whatever way I choose, is just fine. This did nothing to quell my anxiety about whether or not I was doing this coaching thing right. What nailed it was our last session, which began with our usual chatter to ease in to the conversation. And then I said, I want to share something. I’m not sure if it’s a subject for coaching. He replied, “There’s a coachable moment in everything.” Really? Okay then. Coach this…