Getting Unstuck: 7 Tips for Moving Forward with ADHD, Part I
Previously, I wrote a post called ADHD: Betwixt and Between, which explored how we can get stuck in our ADHD treatment.
One way is when we’ve established a treatment approach but feel like we’re spinning our wheels.
A sure sign of this is when we become Peggy Lee and begin singing “Is that all there is?” in the shower. If this is happening to you – take action now! Keep reading! This is a very dangerous stage, especially if you can’t carry a tune.
Another roadblock that keeps us from moving forward is when we change so much we don’t recognize ourselves.
Based on your feedback, I realized I wasn’t the only one experiencing this, so I promised to dig into it further to find out if it’s a bona fide phase, and to come up with some solutions.
My quest led me to ADHD expert Michele Novotni, author of What Does Everybody Else Know That I Don’t?: Social Skills Help for Adults with Attention Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder (1999) and a psychologist and coach who works with adults with ADHD.
I asked Novotni if she’d seen this phenomenon in her ADHD clients.
Novotni provided some excellent advice to help with the first part of being stuck: hitting a wall in your ADHD treatment. Tomorrow, I’ll tackle the second part and provide more suggestions for how to move on.
Without further adieu, here are Novotni’s suggestions (some of which I’ve expanded on).
1. Make sure that your medications and other ADHD treatments are optimized.
Have you consulted with your diagnosing physician lately? Make sure they are familiar with ADHD medications and are able to find the right one, and the right dose, for you. Are you following through on other treatments or being inconsistent?
Tweak those that work for you to make them work even better.
2. Identify what areas you’re still struggling with, and what areas you might be able to do better in.
You might want to delegate for some challenges; some you can tackle yourself.
3. Determine some goals.
What is it that you want to do next that you’re not doing now?
4. Take a look at your resources.
Who might be on your team now that might be able to help you get there?
5. Find new resources.
“Maybe you need to surround yourself with some new ideas, new people, new resources, maybe a different coach, or a different therapist,” says Novotni. “…What else haven’t you tried that you might want to do?”
Remember that there are different people with different specialties, different ideas, and different personalities. Find someone who has the chops to take you to the next stage.
For example, says Novotni, some coaches are good at helping you get your paperwork done, some are good at helping you in your business, and some might be good at helping you with entrepreneurial tasks.
6. Don’t get stuck in the negatives!
“Everybody’s always looking at what they’re doing wrong: ’I’m hitting the wall. I’m not finishing this. I’m not finishing that.’
I’d really encourage you to focus on is what have you done? How have you gotten from where you were to where you are? What did you do? How did you do it? And how did you get yourself to do it?”
Is there any of that that you can tap into to pull it up for the next level?”
~ Michele Novotni, Ph.D.
7. Make the most of your strengths
We’ve often heard that it’s more productive for those of us with ADHD to maximize our strengths rather than try to get better at stuff we’re not good at.
Remembering this when you find yourself stuck in your ADHD treatment is essential.
“I think you’re most successful when you’re really leveraging the heck out of your strengths.”
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So get yourself unstuck, get out there, and go get ‘em!
And – stayed tuned for Part II tomorrow when I’ll add my two cents’ worth on a few more things that might be holding you back.
Onward and upward!
Kessler, Z. (2013). Getting Unstuck: 7 Tips for Moving Forward with ADHD, Part I. Psych Central. Retrieved on May 5, 2016, from http://blogs.psychcentral.com/adhd-zoe/2013/01/getting-unstuck-7-tips-for-moving-forward-with-adhd-part-i/