ADHD Coaching: Everything You Always Wanted to Know But Were Afraid to Ask (Upcoming Webinar)

By Zoë Kessler, BA, B.Ed.
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Mark Jones, ADHD Coach

I’ve been sharing a few updates about my ADHD coaching experience here at my blog. Now, it’s your turn!

Mark Jones, from Anchored Awareness Coaching, has offered up his time and experience to present a webinar for us this Monday, September 22 at 7 p.m. ET to talk about ADHD coaching: what it is (and isn’t), and to answer your questions.

I invited Mark because I still have a few questions about ADHD coaching myself. I’ve come to know several ADHD coaches over the years, and it seems that their styles and approaches, while offering the same or similar basics, also differ somewhat.

I guess it’s appropriate that coaches take different approaches. After all, every one of us with ADHD is unique in our challenges, strengths and personalities, even though we too have a through line that makes us all – well – a tribe.

So how do you know which coach is the right coach for you?

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5 Ways to Happiness Through the ADHD Golden Rule

By Zoë Kessler, BA, B.Ed.

adhd_ahead1aLearning about ADHD late in life has taught me a few things about how I’d like to be treated. There were many times in the past (before my diagnosis) that things might have gone more smoothly if I’d understood myself better, and what I needed from others.

This got me thinking: maybe the way I’d like to be treated would work for others too.

That’s when I came up with my ADHD Golden Rule:

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Coronation Street: Examining the Usual (ADHD) Suspects

By Zoë Kessler, BA, B.Ed.

Zoe Kessler with a TiaraI’ve been asked by readers to follow up on the ever-evolving Coronation Street plot featuring 7 (or 8, depending on the source) year-old Max as a potential candidate for the dreaded ADHD diagnosis.

So here’s the promised update (as of the Canadian programming schedule; further episodes have aired elsewhere and, spoiler alert, it looks like Max goes on medication and it helps).

Sugar and spice and tv’s not nice… apparently…

So far we’ve got television and ice cream as two alleged culprits cited as the source of Max’s behavior. The usual suspects. But what do the experts say?

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Sensitive: A Documentary for HSP’s

By Zoë Kessler, BA, B.Ed.

The countdown is on! Seven days are all that’s left to change the world for the better.

But let me begin at the beginning.

Being diagnosed with ADHD at 47 was a revelation. It explained so much about my life, there was no way I could imagine having another experience that paralleled the insights from learning about ADHD (for example, why the only part about Martha Stewart I could understand was the jail part; at the time of my diagnosis I was about five years behind in my income tax).

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ADHD Gets Coronated

By Zoë Kessler, BA, B.Ed.
ADHD Gets Coronated

ADHD Gets Coronated

My friend is hooked on Coronation Street; has been for years.

How could I help watching when she and her partner were glued in front of the telly on weekends when I was visiting? I couldn’t be rude, now could I?

The inevitable plot line

So, there we were one evening, me on the loveseat, her in her comfy chair, immersed in Episode 8439 (the show’s been running since 1960).

I’m noticing the over-the-top behavior of eight-year-old Max, son of Kylie and adopted son of husband David.

I know where this is going, I say aloud.

Sure enough, two episodes later, adoptive dad David has set up an appointment with the family doc, against mom Kylie’s wishes. Kylie doesn’t want the kid to have a label. (I’ve already labeled him. Too late, Kylie.)

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Robin Williams’ Death Shocking? Yes and No

By Zoë Kessler, BA, B.Ed.

Robin Williams Dead Poets SocietyI keep reading that Robin Williams’ death is a shock.

Were you shocked? Was I? Yes and no. But mostly, no.

Sadly, some of us dealing with mental health issues, personally and in our professional lives, or have loved ones who are, are not as shocked as others seem to be.

Within the context of Williams’ history, his sudden death is a shock yes, but sadly not as much a shock as if his mental health and addiction challenges had been absent. With the presence of severe depression, addictions, bipolar disorder, or any combination of the above, suicide is not out of the blue, but one of many responses to the pummeling experience of living with these conditions.

So often we see that behind the public persona of some of our funniest, most clever, compassionate, kind, and empathetic artists, lies a dark side. I’ve always used humor to overcome, but sometimes to cover my pain. I’m not the first one, and certainly not the only one, to retreat behind a quick succession of jokes and comedic banter when I’m feeling emotionally challenged.

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Coach This: Celebrating the ADHD Journey

By Zoë Kessler, BA, B.Ed.

ADHD CoachingWith as much as I know about coaching in theory, and with as many coaches as I know professionally through my work in ADHD, you’d think I’d have a great handle on what, exactly, ADHD coaching is.

I don’t.

In the past I’ve asked my coach if others he’s worked with talk about similar issues. He assured me that the coaching session is for me, and whatever I want to work on, in whatever way I choose, is just fine.

This did nothing to quell my anxiety about whether or not I was doing this coaching thing right. What nailed it was our last session, which began with our usual chatter to ease in to the conversation. And then I said,

I want to share something. I’m not sure if it’s a subject for coaching.

He replied, “There’s a coachable moment in everything.”

Really? Okay then. Coach this…

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Venus Envy – ADHD and Social Awkwardness

By Zoë Kessler, BA, B.Ed.

Venus de Milo: Feeling Socially Awkward with ADHDIt happened at a job interview. I found myself feeling clueless about eye contact: how much was too much? I was trying to pay attention to what the interviewer was saying, and ended up worrying that I was staring like an expressionless sociopath so I looked away – just when she asked me a question. I’d been vacillating between trying for a neutral expression, hoping to look attentive and reflective, and occasional smiles, which I was sure were apropos of nothing, ill-timed, and making me look even more nuts. I couldn’t help it. I had no idea whose face I was using, or how it got there, but it wasn’t mine.

Surprisingly, I got the job.

Nearly a decade has passed, and there have been few comparably cringe-worthy incidents.

Until now, that is.

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Why Get Bent Out of Shape? Yoga and ADHD

By Zoë Kessler, BA, B.Ed.
Julie Lelièvre, CYT

Julie Lelièvre, CYT

I’d been sitting at my desk, spinning my wheels, unable to focus all day. That’s when I remembered Julie’s yoga class.

I might as well go, I thought; I’m not getting anything done here.

At 5:45 p.m., I threw my thick blanket in the car and off I went to Harrison Park. It was a perfect summer’s evening, with a blue sky, a gentle breeze, and a few clouds to keep us cool. I was glad to get away from my computer and knew that if I didn’t force myself to go to class, I might sit well into the evening, accomplishing nothing and becoming frustrated and despondent in the process.

As I drove the winding, descending road into the park, I began to relax, before the yoga even started.

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Shawn Ladd’s Excellent Amen Clinics Adventure – Part II

By Zoë Kessler, BA, B.Ed.

Did you miss my introduction or Part I of guest blogger Shawn Ladd’s adventures? Read them here:

ADHD Adult Has His Head Examined – And I’m Grateful (introduction)
Shawn Ladd’s Excellent Amen Clinics Adventure – Part I

Shawn Ladd

Shawn Ladd; Photo ©Istar Guvan

After the second SPECT scan, I had a long chat with Dr. Christine Kraus about how to read the qEEG results and what my specific readings could mean (Dr. Kraus only looks at the qEEGs, to avoid any possibility of bias.) The electrical activity in my brain is characteristic of a person who has ADD, who is prone to anxiety, and who may have a mood disorder. Cool. And there are several options that could help, which she’ll report to the psychiatrist for integrating into treatment options. Also cool. Then back to the hotel for my first drink in a week (I took the “no alcohol before testing” admonition very seriously), which turned into several, and one more sunset pee.

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