As a writer, I detest the phrase, “going forward” as a description of conditions under which certain actions will be appropriate. Why? Because it describes the one condition that will absolutely take place. “This will be our policy going forward.” Well, yes it will be. But “This will be our policy.” says exactly the same thing. But as an ADHD writer, I want to reclaim the phrase, “going forward,” and redefine it.
As a writer, I've never been plagued by writer's block. This makes me the envy of other writers I'm told. I suspect my ADHD has something to do with that. Give this mind of mine a topic or an idea and stand back. Parts may fly off, gears may slip and grind, but the engine never stalls. And that isn't to say that, given a topic, my mind will stay on track. Ask me to write about a tractor and you're liable to get a story about an entire farm. Or ask me for a general description of urban life and you might end up with a seven thousand word description of my favorite café. It's a gamble every time I open up the trunk and start pulling the words out.
I've been giving some thought to what an ADHD holiday might look like exactly. And surprisingly, I don't really know what that might be. I thought about extreme sports things. Why not go hang gliding. Zip lining looks fun too. And what about parachuting? Does the idea of getting out of a perfectly good airplane that isn't sitting on the ground appeal to you? While some of us self-medicate with the rush of such things, we don't all like that. So I can't say I'm recommending such things. I can say they're not really on my list, I've fallen out of and off of enough things already in my life, I don't need to do that sort of thing on purpose.
So you're looking for work? Well, a lot of us do that. We change jobs frequently. It seems that some jobs look like they're going to be the next great thing in our lives and then they turn out to be just the next thing we're looking to change. I don't know how many times I found myself doing something different from the job title on my business cards and then declaring to the world that I had found the perfect job for me.
A while ago, a friend of mine whom we'll call Bob was telling an anecdote about working some years earlier as an apple picker. It seems that when the pickers got thirsty they had a bucket of water and a ladle. One of the pickers asked the boss if the water was “fresh.” Bob tells this part with a grin, “The boss told the fellow 'That water is about two billion years old.'” Sometimes things aren't perceived the way they really are. Sometimes they just look different. But sometimes we're not looking at those things from the correct angle.
I'm an adult with ADHD. They refer to my ADHD as Adult ADHD. It's the same ADHD I had as a child, but once I reached the age of consent or majority or whatever you might want to refer to it as, I became and adult and so, apparently, did my ADHD. I'm rather surprised that it is considered Adult ADHD, it never seems to take responsibility for much of anything. In fact, I think that if I told people I had Childhood ADHD, they might have a better idea of what to expect from me. For one thing, my ADHD is the reason that I'm liable to consider certain behaviors, and even why I may succumb to the lure of said behaviors.
The Olympics have just ended. Did you watch them? Maybe you were one of the ones who attended? Maybe you even participated, some athletes have ADHD. I find the concept to be amazing. The Olympics are that collection of games that have set rules and regulations calculated to level the playing field for the athletes. This is done so that only the skill and the results of their training impact the athlete's standing at the end of each competition.
Have you heard that old encouraging adage, “fake it 'til you make it?” That's where you pretend you know what you're doing and hope to learn as you go. It involves two things, observation of what needs doing and how, as best you can, and of course, learning from your mistakes … and learning really quickly. For those of us with ADHD, the first part is actually quite a bit easier than one might think it should be. If we're engaged in a “fake it 'til you make it” activity, there's a good chance
I got decision making skills. I'm good at it. I make snap decisions and long drawn out decisions, I can ponder over things for ever and end up making no decision until it's too late. I'm telling you, I can do it all. I can decide things before I even realize there's a decision to be made. Those are called snap decisions. I used to refer to myself as being decisive, now I'm more likely to call it reckless. These days I'm also known to recant when I make one of those decisions, one of those reckless ones. I don't always, but I have done. The thing is I feel less compulsion to stand behind a bad decision knowing that I made it in a reckless way and knowing that my ADHD is at least partly at fault for that.
Do you code? Do you write computer programs? Apps for phones or tablets? Do you work with hypertext or Java or any of the other information display languages? If you do, then you know how easy it is for a bit of erroneous code to send things into … well, hell. And whether you do or not, you may know that programmers sometimes present pseudo-code to people as a substitute to explain what a program is supposed to do. Not real code but something half way between human communication and a high end programming language.