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The Three Things That Keep Me In An ADHD Mess

By Kelly Babcock
Nothing to see here folks ...

Nothing to see here folks …

There’s clutter in my world. There’s a three pronged offensive that causes a mess that follows me around.

The photo to the left doesn’t show the mess or clutter that was on the couch, it shows what happens when I make an effort to reclaim space. It took ten minutes to tidy up, it took three weeks to decide to.

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Checking Out With ADHD

By Kelly Babcock
Sometimes the evidence ... is all there is.

Sometimes the evidence … is all there is.

Are you familiar with checking out? I don’t mean checking out of a hotel, though lord knows I could write a blog post on that easily. “Yes, Mr. Babcock, you did leave your pillow behind. .. Of course we’ll ship that to you. Would you like your wallet and teddy bear also?” er, never mind.

What I’m actually referring to is that point in time when, for whatever reason, you suddenly (or subtly) go awol. And the only proof you have of the event is that you have no recollection of the last __ (fill in the blank) minutes of your life.

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Where Were You When You Found Out You Had ADHD

By Kelly Babcock

 

Very often ...

Very often …

I was in my psychiatrist’s office when I found out, but that’s not really what I’m talking about. Where was I when I went for my diagnosis emotionally? Well, I thought I was okay.

I felt I had a pretty good handle on what was going on in my life when I got an appointment to see a psychiatrist. I was fairly certain that ADHD was what made me different from so many people I knew. I was ready to hear whatever news the doctor thought I ought to hear.

So when he said “You seem to have ADHD, Mr. Babcock.” I was calm, cool, collected. I simply replied “Yeah, I thought so.”

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A View Of Developmental Issues And ADHD

By Kelly Babcock
Non-standard development might graph like this ...

Non-standard development might graph like this …

When you were born, you couldn’t focus on much of anything. Slowly, as you grew older, grew up, grew more mature, your abilities to pay attention became more reliable.

At different ages in your development, your ability to focus would be expected to correspond with a standard. If you’re reading this, you or someone you know might not have measured up.

Genetically, someone slipped something into your chromosomes that ambushed your development, delayed it or slowed it down to a stop before you got to the point where you could focus on whatever you decided to focus on for as long as you needed to.

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Breaking News – ADHD Does Not Exist

By Kelly Babcock
I don't need to breath!!!

I don’t need to breath!!!

I’m getting very tired of this. If you would like to tell me that you do not have ADHD, feel free. If you would like to tell me that you can’t find your car keys six days out of seven, but you don’t have ADHD, that’s okay.

If you would like to tell me that you walk into rooms 50 times a day and wonder what you went in there for, AND you can’t find your car keys but you don’t have ADHD, that’s okay too.

If you want to tell me you cannot focus on a book long enough to read the synopsis, you walk into rooms and then can’t remember why and can’t find yo

ur keys but you don’t have ADHD … that’s fine.

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What Have I Been Putting Off?

By Kelly Babcock
©Wikimedia Commons, Jan Ainali

My next stop in my journey ©Wikimedia Commons, Jan Ainali

Sometimes thing work out in spite of my ADHD. Not always. Okay, not often. But sometimes …

Last spring I damaged my back. I got the summer off work, which seems like a win, but it wasn’t. No pay and lots of pain. So that wasn’t an example of things working out. Although I did get to spend the August long weekend in historic Quebec. I thought that was good.

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How To Be Admired With ADHD

By Kelly Babcock
Is it possible to earn admiration?

Is it possible to earn admiration?

There are two ways to end up being admired if you have ADHD. The first way is to take your time, figure out what you want to do in life, then do it so well that people have no choice but to pay attention. It may take a while, because, hey, if you’re like me, you have ADHD. So firstly, you’re going to have a few false starts. Maybe more than a few.

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Why Do Fools And ADHDers Fall In Love?

By Kelly Babcock
"Tatz" by Andrée

“Tatz” by Andrée

“Fools rush in where wise men fear to tread.” A well known sentiment, and there is truth in it. And that old song “Why do fools fall in love?” is only referring to the person as a fool because they fall in love without thinking it through.

The truth is, though, that falling is called “falling” because, like dealing with gravity, you don’t get much of a choice in the matter. Things attract you and hormones get released. It doesn’t take the human mind long to figure out that those hormones are at their peak when the person who causes their release shows up or is thought of.

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I Hate When People Use ADHD As An Excuse

By Kelly Babcock
Cracks in your self esteem? Forget about them!

Cracks in your self esteem? Forget about them!

Some title, eh? And I hear this in different ways. There’s the old dismissive standard: “ADHD is just an excuse for ! (fill in the blank)” And then there’s: “Every time you do that, you blame your ADHD!” And one of my all time favorites: “Instead of talking about your ADHD, why don’t you do something about it?”

It’s nice that there is so much help out there, isn’t it? And the great thing is that any one of these remarks immediately makes me retreat into myself, disengage from the person who says them, and re-establish my relationship with the cracks I’d thought I had patched in my shattered self esteem.

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Anatomy of My ADHD Brain Fog

By Kelly Babcock
I'm a little foggy about why I included this picture ...

I’m a little foggy about why I included this picture …

I seem to have a problem that would almost be the opposite of ADHD, except, it’s not. My ADHD mind is usually a whirl of thoughts and ideas. It’s a rare occasion when I am unable to come up with an idea for … well, for anything.

In fact, standard operating procedure for me is to have too many ideas and to little patience on the part of whoever is listening to my ideas. That’s life in the fast lane for this brain … most of the time.

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