Did you know that people with ADHD thrive in certain job situations and languish in others? It's true, and another thing that is true is that no two of us are alike in that respect. So though we thrive in some jobs and don't in others, we don't all thrive in the same jobs. That being said, there are some jobs that are more likely to be the right fit for the majority of us. Those jobs tend to offer certain things that make our lives better. That's why we thrive in those situations. And today, of all days, November 11th, it seems
It's Wednesday, November the 9th, 2016. It's the day after Donald Trump won the presidential election in the United States. And I, a Canadian, am just wandering around social media observing things. One thing I'm observing is the number of posts on Facebook that start with, or include the word "Wow." That held my attention for a little while, I can tell you. And though I'm a Canadian, as are most of my friends, there seems to be a lot of worried talk about where this election result will lead the United States and the rest of the world.
I have things to do. I have stuff going on in my life. I have problems, and projects, and hopes and dreams. I have things to do, to take care of, to get through or enjoy. I don't have time for ADHD. So, I'm asking if I can take a break from it ... please? It would be such a relief to not have to deal with all the little stuff that it brings into my life.
If you have ADHD you have problems. Period. End of story. Yes, yes, I know. It's a gift. You're exactly the way you're supposed to be. You're amazing and all that. I'm not arguing any of that. I'm saying that there are documented issues that cannot be considered positive and can very much be considered negative. And they are developmental.
You know what? I can pass myself off as someone without ADHD. People can't tell by looking at me much of the time. You know, as long as I leave my name tag at home. But there are things that give me away. When I'm excited, it's hard for me to sit still. Well, it's actually hard for me to sit still when I'm bored too. Aw who am I kidding? It's often just hard for me to sit still. And sometimes I say things that could be deemed inappropriate. And sometimes I get distracted. And sometimes I do things that could be considered dangerous without thinking them through thoroughly.
I'm a little late. I have a six thirty deadline and it's six fifteen. I'm not going to make it. Part of the problem of writing a blog about ADHD is that you kind of have to know a little bit about ADHD. And since I have no formal education on that subject, it's rather convenient that I have personal insight into the subject. Nothing beats experience, unless it's education and experience. And experience is telling me that, even though my computer has decided that this morning is the morning it's going to update itself regardless of how much I need it to just run, it's not my computer's fault that this post wasn't written last night.
It's Autumn, not spring. My house is up for sale, but it's six months later than I wanted it to be. Okay, it's a year and six months later. Alright, fine two years and six months since I decided to sell. The two years doesn't mean much. I did procrastinate, but I also needed the time to come to terms with leaving a house that has been my home for decades. I would alternate from one week to the next, trying to figure out whether I would be happy leaving there or whether I would be happy staying and struggling with the cost of upkeep and mortgage payments. I spent the two years deciding, but in the end I still sometimes wish I were staying. The two years was needed for me to resolve myself to going, even though I am sometimes still not resolved.
Within Buddhism there is a sect of Japanese origin known as Zen Buddhism. And while its differences from many other segments of Buddhism are simple differences, those differences make for deep discussion and much admiration. Significantly, Zen Buddhism asserts that enlightenment can be derived from contemplation and meditation. But the word "Zen" has been borrowed and, if not corrupted, certainly broadened in its definition. It has come to be used for almost any approach to anything that is simpler and seemingly obvious. It has also been used to suggest that simpler approaches are better, especially if there is some mystery surrounding how those approaches work.
On Friday we talked about how to get yourself into prison, especially if you have ADHD. If it's something you aspire to, then your impulsivity and lack of executive function can be great tools to help you achieve this goal. If prison is something you would rather avoid, then it's best to discover how to manage impulsive behaviour and compensate for a lack of E.F. in advance of becoming responsible for your actions. And if you don't, you might end up in the general population of the corrections system. You might end up ... in stir, as they say.
Did you know there is a statistic for the prevalence of ADHD in the population of the correction systems? There is. In Canada, the stat says that adult inmates are five times more likely to have ADHD than the population on the outside. Unbelievable! Right? .... but it gets worse.