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[caption id="attachment_2499" align="alignleft" width="228"] December looks bleak to some of us ADHDers[/caption]

Well, we’ve hit the home stretch, the last month of the year. It’s a stressful month for all of us, especially ADHDers. I feel I should help, but I’m not sure I’m up to the task. I have some issues weighing heavily on my heart and mind.

Last year at this time I checked out. I was here, I wrote blog posts, I did my best to make them relevant, pertinent. But I was hibernating in my heart; my soul was a hermit; I was phoning it in and keeping myself anaesthetized.

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Get Me Through December: A Symbolic New Beginning

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  1. Moving forward with a lighter load will probably feel strange for a little while! Hang in there my friend. There are brighter days ahead and new adventures for everyone who chooses to search for them. Wishing you luck and strength along your new path.
    Shannon

    • Shannon,

      It means a great deal to me to know there are people like you out there. Your support is very much appreciated. As to new adventures, read the next comment and my reply.

      Thanks for reading my post, for the comment and the concern,
      Kelly

  2. Kelly, this is a difficult month for many people – missing family members, financial stress, that pressure to be “merry” at Christmas, the lack of sunshine, etc. You’re not alone.

    I applaud your desire to put things out there and then kiss them goodbye. Best of luck. Maybe I should try that too.

    • Hey, Caro,

      Perhaps you should try this. Shannon, the last commentor, suggested one of the benefits might be new adventures. I guess that you and I performing together at our local monthly open mic venue would fall under that category, eh?

      Thanks for reading my post and for your comment and support, I appreciate it.

      Kelly

  3. I vote yes! Go for it Caroline. If it happens record it and share with us all. I have a good feeling about the coming year. (well unless of course the Mayans were right). Cheers to new adventures!

    • The gig has already been instigated, Shannon. There is current ongoing discussion as to what we’ll perform. I’d like to write something new, but haven’t managed yet. We may end up doing one of my more recent pieces, we’ll see.

      Thanks for the push, and for the friendship,

      Kelly

  4. Well, you don’t have to cheer up for me. I’m finding your talks on what you are going through very helpful. I turned 70 on Sunday and find there is no future to plan for except for how I’m going to scrape enough together to get a burial policy. It’s a whole different mindset and making the mental switch is daunting. Finding something positive is really hard sometimes. I’m a master of self abuse, but with medication I’ve been able to look at more subjectively than ever before. I noticed that when I feel myself starting to plummet, my little mind panics and starts scrambling frantically to find ways to ward it off. It has rarely worked. Reading on mindfulness, I decided to try just having the plunge, going with it. And sure enough, my ADHD brain will have jumped to something else and I’ll find myself out of it and doing something else. I’m guessing that fighting it is causing me to hyperfocus on what an awful person I am. I don’t know, but I’m a big fan of what works.

    • Susun, you are so wrong. Scrape the cash together and get the policy, and then ask yourself this … what have you forgotten to do that you wanted to do. I guarantee you’ll find things.

      And let me point out that you have commented on my posts on more than one occasion, you’ve shared your life and your point of view and I can only surmise that your intention was to help me and others who read this blog and are struggling. So much for your being an awful person. You, like so many of us, are simply unable to assess your true value. I don’t know if this is due to our poor self awareness, but it doesn’t jive. I write music, I write prose and poetry and I try to be helpful to my friends with ADHD. I like to be there for people when they are in need. I’m a competent contractor and I like to think I’m a good friend. But like you, I judge myself harshly.

      I’m glad you find my posts helpful. That’s why I write them, for you and anyone else that can take something of use away from them.

      And, I too am a big fan of what works, and I’m happy you’ve found something that works for you. That means one more of my friends has made some progress. Thanks for sharing this,

      Kelly

    • … and happy birthday, Susun. You are a good person and you deserve to be happy.

      Kelly

  5. “Long have we ADHDers been masters of self abuse. Taking what we’re told about ourselves, we add our own stones to those thrown by others. It’s a simple step up to blaming myself for my current situation.”

    Gosh, Kelly….you sure speak for me on that one!!!

    Thank you for your courage and honesty in the sharing of your personal struggle. May it serve as a bridge to peace, not only for yourself, but for the many who benefit from your sharing.

    Regards,
    Faith

    • Faith, you are aptly named. May the courage you’ve shown in commenting here be added to the courage of all who stand for the rights of all people to be accepted and valued.

      Thank you for reading this post, for commenting, and for your kind words,
      Kelly

    • Kelly, thank you. I was touched by your response to Susan.

      And, Susan, thank you so much for bringing up a very icky topic that no one seems to want to name or discuss, especially when there is so much pressure to “look at the positive” in life and be upbeat & cheerful [otherwise you may as well go off in some corner, somewhere, by yourself]. Chronologically, I’m not all that far behind and I can strongly relate to what you are expressing.

      • Thanks again, Faith, for commenting on my blog and for reading it. And thank you for the compliment.

        … I’ll not comment on the rest, I’ll leave it to speak to whom it was intended for and I’ll just keep my peace.

        Kelly

  6. Mm. Always love Krauss.

  7. One can only hope “The Year of the Snake” will be better than “The Year of the Dragon”, but….I don’t know….Another year of “transformation” &/or “transmutation” doesn’t sound too friendly – but that could be the negative pessimist in me [hence my chosen name, “Faith”, which I try to use for inspiration!

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