Firstly, I apologize for the sorry pun. But it works on so many levels … well, okay two, it works on two levels. The sorry pun is one level.
The other level is the fact that denial is the full time facilitator of procrastination.
I don’t mean that we deny that tasks exist, or that they need to be done. We’re smarter than that.
We deny that the imperative nature of a thing is … well, is as imperative as it is.
I just spent a very long weekend. Actually, I spent a long week leading up to the weekend. I mentioned I’ve been working as a volunteer, helping to get the 39th Annual Summerfolk Music and Crafts Festival ready.
Well, we succeeded. But my writing suffered. I missed my deadline last Monday, and again today. I still published, but late.
Have you ever felt like life is a show? Does it seem like you’re constantly trying to act in an acceptable way? Are you on guard all day, every day, to make sure that you don’t do the wrong thing, say the wrong thing, or miss the point that everyone else is getting?
I’ve spent a lot of my life engaged in that activity, and I have to say that it’s tiring, most of the time. But there is a time when I don’t worry. It’s when I’m on stage.
There are people who say that having ADHD makes you creative. And there are those who say that that hasn’t been proven. And there are those who say that ADHD creativity is a myth.
I say that creativity is a matter of creating. And creating requires you to be able to concentrate on the process. And concentration on a single process is what is known as focus.
Having ADHD is pretty much the opposite of being able to focus, at least on things that you choose to focus on. “But we have hyperfocus.” I hear you saying. And yes, there are times when we can zone in on something But Dr. Charles Barkley suggests that “hyperfocus” is the wrong name for that.
Interesting how the mind works, or in some instances doesn’t work. I went to bed on Wednesday night, a tired man. I was counting on getting lots of sleep, counting heavily on it.
And sleep I did. I know this because every time I woke up I realized I’d been asleep. I’ve had this happen before, it isn’t pleasant.
Sometimes it occurs because I had my last cup of coffee for the day to long before going to bed. I need that coffee to be right before my bedtime if I’m going to count on my mind not zinging around like a bullet in a steel barrel. Counter intuitive, I know, but that’s me, your friendly neighbourhood ADHD enigma.
So, lets see. On Monday we talked about what values ADHD people might bring to the table, and I think there are lots more than the ones we covered.
Since no two of us are identical, the real point is to find the abilities that each person with ADHD has and, for want of a better term, exploit them to the advantage of all involved.
The benefits of this to the person with ADHD are great. And perhaps the least of them is gainful employment. I say this because, in my opinion, the greatest is the self worth and self esteem generated by the feeling of being an active and valued part of a functioning and successful organization.
On Monday we had a little talk about a friend of mine who has a local business and told me about how much he valued the strengths that an employee with ADHD could bring to the table.
I asked him if he had to do anything differently to make the value evident, and he offered the following suggestions.
He suggested that lists were a bad thing. I looked at him kind of oddly, and he clarified by explaining that if a person makes a list of things they need to do, that’s fine. It’s their list, they’re invested in it. But if they are handed a list, it will get lost.
Last night I was at a concert. During intermission, I got talking with a friend of mine who runs a local business. I mentioned that I had a 6:30 AM deadline for my blog, and that I wasn’t sure what I’d write about.
He asked me why I didn’t just write about the fact that anyone who wants their business to be a success should hire someone with ADHD.
I looked at him like I had questions … which I did. I took out my pen and pad of paper and said “What makes you say that?”
So he began to tell me the reasons someone with ADHD was, in his opinion, essential to running a successful business.
I need to write this post quickly, before I forget what I’m writing about. Wait, is that old age that causes that?
Or is it ADHD. In actuality, I’m only 55 … but geez, even saying that makes me think “Who? Me? 55? Really?”
You see, I feel, mentally that I’m 18. Also, I feel emotionally like I’m 25. All right, all right, 22.
And while I have, in fact, a rather remarkable memory for things that have happened and for mostly useless bits of trivia, I don’t remember enough to be able to feel like I’ve lived for 55 years.
Being a rural Canadian, there are naturally some things I need. I need to see the Canadians play hockey whenever they’re playing on the world stage.
I need to be submersed in fresh water several times each summer season, and that doesn’t mean in swimming pools.
I need some snow each year, and I need some sun. It’s the way it is. I can’t help it.
Being a person with ADHD, there are other things I naturally need. I need to be challenged in order to be able to focus. I need notes in order to be able to keep track of things I’d easily forget, and sometimes still do.