Archives for Stigma
There are two kinds of people in this world. Those who divide the worlds population into groups, and those who don't. Obviously, I am in the first group. There are many other criteria for dividing up the population, gender, skin pigment, political leanings, and so on. And without exception, the divisions should only be applied for the sake of statistical analysis. Never for application of service or restriction of same should populations be divided. But there are other divisions that we might study as well. There are those who
Having ADHD is like being normal, 'cause for me, it is normal. I've never been any other way. To me, people without ADHD are the oddballs. No offense, but from where I sit, they're really quite strange. I mean, really, how can you live with a brain that moves that slow? It's like it must be stuck in low gear or something. And then they're always stopping to think. How does that even make sense? “Let me stop and think about that for a minute ...” Really? Stop what? Thinking? I say, “Let me think about that, along with everything else I'm currently pondering!”
If you don't have ADHD, then you may not know these things. But that's okay, I'm going to tell you, then you will know. You may think that ADHD is being absent minded. That's not true. Our minds are never absent, they are always present, they just like to be present in way to many trains of thought. We can't help that. You may think that we have too many things on the go. That's not entirely true either. We do try to multitask, even though nobody can multitask really. Not even computers truly multitask. They do what everyone does, they allot slices of
It has come to my attention that there is a persistent idea that ADHD is not a valid mental health issue. It's perceived kind of like the new father's mixed up son from a previous marriage that stay's mostly with his mother but every now and then you have to put up with him visiting. Or like those e-bikes out on the street that aren't cars or trucks, but they're not really bicycles and they sure aren't motorcycles.
Let's examine a few facts. Current statistics tell us that somewhere around ten percent of the population is affected by ADHD. We know that there is a still larger segment of the population that does not fall into the category of neuro-typical. And I'm not going to attempt to guess what that percentage is. Now I'm okay with the word normal, it's the antonyms that I have problems with. The idea is that those of us who fall outside the realm of neuro-typical are not normal. We're abnormal, sub-normal. But down through the ages, ideas have been wrong. And this one is wrong also. This one is very wrong. It's wrong because there are many of us. How can we not be normal if there are so many of us. Well, that's easy, because there are only one to five of us in any one classroom, only 10 to 50 of us in any ten classrooms. In any work place with more than 10 people there is likely to be one or more of us. That's not a lot of us.
Some people say labels are a bad thing. Sometimes I agree. But not always. Here's the deal, sometimes labels are bad. If you label someone, you marginalize them. What does that mean? It means that they are being relegated to the outskirts, they are being set aside either because they are deemed to be not salvageable or they will be dealt with later if there is time and money. Additionally, if you label someone, you run the risk of that label being used as judgment by others. You may not have intended any negative stigmatization, but others may not perceive the label that way.
I do. I have ADHD. It isn't something you catch, so don't worry, I'm not contagious. On the other hand, if you already have it but are oblivious, close proximity to me might cause you to catch on. See, I'm pretty aware of my disorder, pretty aware of the things it does to my life, the issues it causes, and yes, even the bonuses I can derive from it. And I'm not a quiet guy. So if you hang around with me, you'll start hearing all about life with ADHD. And if you recognize yourself in the picture I paint, you may catch a bad (or good) case of understanding.
There can be a lot of differences in lives with ADHD depending on where the light shines in them, and where the shadows fall. Acceptance or denial can mean so much in the long run. Let's consider two boys, the same age, in the same grade, in similar schools, in similar towns, each with ADHD. Let's call them Art and Bert. Sorry if your name is Art or Bert, this is a fictional scenario, so this isn't you. This is them. And here they are:
You see that meme there? I stole it. Well, to be honest, it has no copyright on it. Maybe it did where it was posted originally. Maybe there was something in the comments. I don't care. Why don't I care? Because I'm doing the person who created this meme a favour by not including their copyright. I'm not telling the world who the person who created this lie is. If they're smart, they'll take down their copy of it. Let it become an urban legend, and internet mystery. Who was it that first created and posted that stupid lying meme about 1980 and 2014?
You know that there are millions of horses out there, hundreds of breeds, dozens of colors and markings. Horses are cool because people talk about them by their markings and color. Palominos, paints, buckskins, pintos, bays, every one is a mark of distinction. And who doesn't love horses? Right? I did own a palomino once that seemed to have some weird ideas that made me question his intelligence, but I treated him as well as the other horses in the stable and possibly a smidgen better since he was my ride. When we differentiate among ourselves by color, however, it usually isn't for positive reasons. We're never as good to ourselves as we are to horses in that respect.