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I don't do art. But I love art.
Okay, I'm getting the evil eye from folks who think that photography is an art form. And I'd say they are right, it is. And I do that.
Also, I should mention that I am thinking of the visual arts here. I'm not excluding music, poetry and literature from the arts, I'm just not talking about them in this post.
And so, what I meant to say was, I do not draw or paint or sculpt. I doodle sometimes, but not like I did in school when there was nothing else interesting to do.
Everyone multitasks. Or at least they believe they multitask. The truth is that they actually do little parts of multiple tasks in alternating sequence. Few people can actually do more than one thing at a time.
But that “parts of multiple tasks in alternating sequence” thing, that's pretty good. And if we're going to look at humankind's abilities and say that within those abilities this is what we're calling multitasking, than yeah, we all do that.
And some of us do it more than others, better than others also. Like any other activity in our arsenal, there is a spectrum of competence. But ...
I had a great idea for a blog post today. It was so good I thought I'd never forget it. You're reading this instead.
But you know, for the most part, I write things down now. I have a note pad and a pen in my pocket at all times. And sometimes when it's time to write a post, all I have to do is read my note pad and there are a whole bunch of ideas.
Admittedly, some of them sounded better before I wrote them down. Somehow a lot of them lose something in the brewing and steeping that occurs in my pocket after being recorded.
For people with ADHD, relaxing is something we just barely understand the idea of. And while we are aware of how it is supposed to work, few of us have truly experienced relaxation for more than a moment or two at a time.
In fact, for some of us, the thought of sitting still and quiet is unnerving. And actually doing that? Sitting still and quiet? That's been a threat of punishment for us since grade school.
What exactly is relaxing? For most of the world, relaxing involves sitting still and meditating or maintaining our mind calmly and quietly. Often when people “go” to relax it involves finding a place where responsibilities don't exist and then wallowing in that lack of responsibility.
Today isn't my best day. Today is Tuesday, July 21st. You're reading this on Wednesday if you're reading it fresh. Tuesday is my wedding anniversary. Or it would be if I weren't a widower.
And Wednesday? (Today for you.) Wednesday is the anniversary of my wife's passing. I'm writing this on Tuesday while knowing that it will be published on Wednesday and it's hard to keep my focus on writing about ADHD with these things being part of the flavor of these days.
It's interesting to note that, because of poor time management and poor time awareness, I have at least once discovered that these two anniversaries have slipped by unnoticed by me until they were in the past.
I'm always amazed by the success of negative advertising. If you can't present positive aspects of your own program, then pose questions that raise doubt about the competition.
This approach works often in politics, and I see it more and more in the health care industry.
In order to raise doubts, it seems the best thing is to ask questions that make others look bad. Consider the question “Yes or no, have you stopped beating your children yet?” You can't answer that without incriminating yourself. This isn't a common question we see in the attack ad world, but we see questions that, like this one, assume things not in evidence and ask people to decide what they think of the unproven supposition.
The other day I read a private diatribe on how the American Medical Association's top mission was to eradicate competitors. Apparently, according to this posting, homeopathy had once been “dominant over medical schools.”
Have you ever tried to do something that requires several steps to be completed by doing it step by step? For me, it doesn't work.
If I can't do two or more steps at the same time, I'll often do other things in conjunction with the individual steps I'm performing.
Writing a blog is one of those linear things, and usually I'm doing other things in between the words I write.
People sometimes tell me they have trouble keeping up with me. Well, not so often anymore, since my body has gotten older on me. But still, some people think I get around a lot.
And to tell the truth, for various reasons I don't always tell people everything I do. Sometimes I forget things I did, sometimes they weren't really things to be proud of, and sometimes I just don't think some folks can handle hearing about the madness of my days and weeks.
How did I get here? Yes, that is the question we constantly ask ourselves. And we're not just talking about our current life situation. Though sometimes that's exactly what we're talking about.
I remember wondering those very words in several significant situations and locations. I wondered that when I stood in front of a justice of the peace 31 years ago when I said “I do.” I was amazed that I was doing something that seemed good and right.
The year before that I remember asking myself “How did I get here?” while I sat in an interrogation room at a police station trying to explain, with my slurred speech, the flipped car and the obviously failed breathalyzer test.
Do you remember school? Did you do okay or did you have trouble? Or did you have trouble but still manage to do okay?
I had trouble. There were times when I did okay in spite of the problems that ADHD causes, but I'm certain that most of those times were because teachers either rolled me on to the next grade to be someone else's problem, or they took the time to assure themselves that I knew the lessons even if I hadn't bothered to do the work.
And what was I doing when I wasn't doing the lessons? Well that would depend on the grade.