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A Not-So-Grime ADHD Fairy Tale

Friday, May 24th, 2013
Ready to hit the road in search of reasons ...

Ready to hit the road in search of reasons …

Once upon a time, a long, long time ago, in a land far, far away, there lived a distracted little boy named Kelly. The year was 2009 and the Kelly, little boy, was 49 years old.

He ran from this thing to that, never finishing much and always starting new things. He was a happy and joyful little boy.

Then one day, Kelly found out that at 49 he should have grown up.

He decided to search the land for a way to grow up. He had tried a lot of things in the past and while it never occurred to him back than that he should be growing up, none of those things had caused him to grow up. So he just stroked them off the list. That meant that drinking alcohol hadn’t helped. Smoking pot hadn’t helped. Holding down three jobs at once also didn’t work, nor did not paying attention or climbing things or even the occasional tantrum thrown when all else failed, though in fairness, Kelly still threw tantrums because they were one of the things Kelly knew how to do really well.

You Aren’t What You Eat, And Neither Is Your ADHD

Wednesday, May 22nd, 2013
Notice the lack of junk food? I've gotta go shopping

Notice the lack of junk food? I’ve gotta go shopping

Of course you aren’t what you eat. Your body cleverly selects things from your food to use in the building and maintenance of your body. But that doean’t mean you should make getting at the things it needs a difficult task.

We can always use healthy food. Left unconsidered, my diet will quickly resemble the wreckage of a train carrying snack foods, fast foods, preservatives and additives.

I don’t advocate any particular patented diet or diet program as being a cure or even a control for ADHD, but I know that being healthy means that I’m better able to deal with my quirks, better able to corral, to some extent, my scattered thoughts. And being healthy includes eating healthy. You are what you eat, go easy on the bologna

Protein is important for us, especially those of us who are hyper. Protein helps with the repair of used and abused muscles. And I do need lots of muscle repair on a regular basis.

ADHD Prosopagnosia: That Face, I Know I Know That Face

Monday, May 20th, 2013
The Farmer's Market in my town

The Farmer’s Market in my town

I love the farmer’s market. If you have a market in your town, a real farmer’s market, you should go.

No, I’ve not started writing a travelogue, but maybe I could do that as a sideline … mmmmmmnnnnnno! The thing about my town’s farmers market is that I’ve lived in this town for 50 years, I know many people. I’m related to some of them. Going to market gets me caught up on current local events and gossip. Deals are made, ideas are generated, friends connect.

Oh, and I often get food there as well. Both to eat on the spot, and to take home for my pantry.

Don’t Judge Me Until You’ve Walked A Mile In My Shoes

Wednesday, May 15th, 2013
I'm Blogging for Mental Health.

Today, I’m Blogging for Mental Health.

Today is Mental Health Month Blog Day and I wanted to do something to participate. Many of you may be aware that, while my personal mental health issue is ADHD, my personal challenge is to battle mental health stigma. I’m not alone, many bloggers work hard to minimize the effects of stigma with every post they write.

One of my favourite bloggers, Melanie Knapp, writer of Psychology Discussions, also believes in reducing stigma. Her voice is softer and gentler than mine, but her message is no less powerful.

She and I have decided to share a title for Mental Health Month Blog Day. And that title is the one you see at the top of this post. Here is her post.
And I mean it!

Well, maybe not these shoes ...

Well, maybe not these shoes …

Don’t judge me. That’s really all I want to say. Don’t judge me and I won’t judge you. The part about walking a mile in my shoes is somewhat irrelevant. If you truly do know what it’s like to walk a mile in my shoes, I know you aren’t about to judge me.

But if you don’t know what it’s like to walk a mile in my shoes, if you don’t know what it’s like to have ADHD, let me make it easy for you. You already have all the symptoms. Well, if you don’t have all of them, you have most of them.

  • Do you ever start doing one thing and end up doing something else?
  • Do you ever walk into a room and wonder what you went in there for?
  • Do you ever say something and, possibly while you are saying it, start to think you shouldn’t be saying it? And then know you shouldn’t?
  • Do you ever make an appointment and then forget about it, completely?
  • Do you ever find that you need intense activity to jump start …

ADHD On The Job … Again.

Monday, May 13th, 2013
Tools and toys, ready to roll ...

Tools and toys, ready to roll …

Sometimes I think that working for a contractor is the best possible job for someone with ADHD. There is structure without routine. There is a set expectation. I know what I’m supposed to do and when. I can do my best work and it is appreciated.

And often, when I go that extra mile or figure out how to make something better or do something more efficiently, that’s appreciated also.

Did I mention I’ve started work for the season? Well, I have.

And there’s more. There’s something about working that I love. I mean working as in having a job. The thing I love about it is the focus that comes with engaging your brain in a task that is judged successful when the time is up for the day. Whether the job itself is finished or not, I’ve put in the day. I go at it with the goal being to get to the end of the day, and I succeed.

There’s A Right Way, A Wrong Way, And An ADHD Way To Navigate

Friday, May 10th, 2013
Courtesy google Maps

The city of my birth has grown at an alarming rate.

And I only know one of them. Well, okay, I know the one where I set my GPS to an address and let it tell me where to go. I’m use to being told where to go, I’ve been told plenty.

I would really like to set the GPS voice to that of a Scottish Female. I find that accent very appealing. But I’m pretty sure I’d just find that to be distracting. I’m also certain I’d be taking wrong turns just to hear her say “That’s okay, sure, we’ll just be recalculating and we’ll have you back on the rrrright rrroad in noo time.”

There Will Always Be Good Teachers

Wednesday, May 8th, 2013
In school, I didn't learn no art real good.

In school, I didn’t learn no art real good.

When I was a young lad in school, as you will know if you have parents or grandparents, I had to walk twenty miles to school each day and twenty miles back again, up hill both ways, and it always snowed while I was walking. And often times, that was the good part of my day.

Okay, that’s an exaggeration. But I am not lying when I tell you that I went to one room schools, as in “Little House On The Prairie.” Grade one and grade two were spent in a school with grades one through eight all being taught by one teacher. How did I learn anything you ask? I learned everything. If the teacher was talking I was listening, struggling to comprehend lessons meant for people who ranged from a year older than I was to people twice my age. But I couldn’t do my own work.

5 Childish Things To Get You Through Your ADHD Day

Monday, May 6th, 2013
Maybe getting through this is childsplay ...

Maybe getting through this is childsplay …

If you have ADHD, you’ve got trouble. You know the symptoms as well as I do. And yes, we all agree that we love our lightning brains, but the controls on them aren’t what we would have ordered if we had been getting the custom model instead of the factory refurb.

The thing about ADHD is that our minds don’t develop completely in a couple of key areas. We’re left with the executive function of a child.

That means that even as adults, we make mistakes that are viewed as children’s mistakes. When we screw up, we do it in a childlike way.

So Much Cooler Online: Social Media As A Social Filter

Friday, May 3rd, 2013
Is this Executive Function for dummies?

Is this Executive Function for dummies?

Having ADHD means that I have non-functional executive function, executive dysfunction if you will. This is the part of my cognitive machinery that is supposed to help with decision making.

It isn’t that it doesn’t work, it does, when I engage it. But engaged should be its default state, and it isn’t . Or at least, when it is needed, it should kick into gear automatically. It does not.

Worse still is that, since I have to engage it manually, I have to decide whether I need it, without having it engaged. Do you see a problem there? How am I to make a decision on whether I need the decision making machinery without having the decision making machinery up and running.

ADHD: Been There, Done That

Wednesday, May 1st, 2013
Been there, Done that, got the T-shirt!

Been there, Done that, Got the T-shirt!

Are you tired? Are you bored? Have you had enough of ADHD? Do you want a cure? Do you want a way to fix it? End it? Leave it in the past?

Join the club. That’s what we all want.

That’s why the people with the latest therapy or herbal remedy or book or diet will always have customers.

Don’t misunderstand me, some of the books outline plans that help some of us, maybe even many of us. And many of the books available do the great service of reminding us that we are not alone in this insidious disorder. But we are as diverse a group as there could be. Even the things we have in common aren’t common to each and every one of us.

 

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