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Decisions, Decisions

I got decision making skills. I'm good at it. I make snap decisions and long drawn out decisions, I can ponder over things for ever and end up making no decision until it's too late. I'm telling you, I can do it all. I can decide things before I even realize there's a decision to be made. Those are called snap decisions. I used to refer to myself as being decisive, now I'm more likely to call it reckless. These days I'm also known to recant when I make one of those decisions, one of those reckless ones. I don't always, but I have done. The thing is I feel less compulsion to stand behind a bad decision knowing that I made it in a reckless way and knowing that my ADHD is at least partly at fault for that.
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Two Groups

There are two kinds of people in this world. Those who divide the worlds population into groups, and those who don't. Obviously, I am in the first group. There are many other criteria for dividing up the population, gender, skin pigment, political leanings, and so on. And without exception, the divisions should only be applied for the sake of statistical analysis. Never for application of service or restriction of same should populations be divided. But there are other divisions that we might study as well. There are those who
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On The Ground With ADHD

Sometimes when I write about ADHD, and I go back days or weeks later and reread what I wrote, I think, “That's not really what it's like. Well, it is, but it isn't always like that.” And I realize that ADHD is kind of like being on the ocean. One day could be calm and peaceful, the surface as flat as glass, the next could be a raging storm tossed mess. Most days would have you experiencing some kind of chop or swell or rolling waves. At ten past five on this lovely Friday morning, the pot rack in my kitchen came crashing down. That's kind of a jarring experience at the best of times, but it's much worse when you get to experience it during a deep sleep.
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ADHD Is Weird

Can I tell you something? Just between you and I? I can? Good. Well, keep this to yourself, but Having ADHD is really weird. I mean, it isn't weird on a day to day basis. That part is more … annoying. Yeah, annoying, annoying in a “Holy crap, this having ADHD really sucks and blows big time!” annoying. 'Cause, you know, there's all the damned symptoms, and you can't watch them all, right? So while you're trying to stay focused, you end up making mistakes. When you're trying not to make mistakes, you end up procrastinating. When you're trying not to procrastinate, you end up forgetting stuff and that causes distraction and mistakes and …
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Late Nights With ADHD

Have you ever been ready for bed and found one last thing that needs to be done? Exactly, it happens every now and then. You know, you realize that you need to pay a bill online. That's important, right? Better do that. Or sometimes it's something that maybe isn't so important, but it's only going to take a second. You go to turn out the light in the living room and discover a couple of dirty mugs sitting there. You could leave them 'til morning, but you're here now. How long could it take? Easy enough to put them in
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ADHD Tees Off

Did you know I golf? Yep I do. And you know what? I'm not bad at it. Okay, that was a lie, I do play golf, but I'm bad at it. But the thing is, I don't care that I'm bad at it. And the deeper truth is that I'm not the worst at it. I've played with people worse at golf than I am. And I've learned a few truths about life, even life with ADHD, from playing a round now and again. A round of golf that is.
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Resolve Or Resign

ADHD sucks. Yeah, yeah, Ferrari engine with Raleigh brakes, thinking outside the box, creativity, all that stuff. But there's also heart on your sleeve, and the risk of opening your mouth, forgetting to make appointments,  forgetting that you did make appointments, and standing in the doorway for the hundredth time this morning asking yourself, “What was it I wanted in here?” ADHD is not fun. You can know so much, and you are often unable to do anything with it. And though symptoms that recur ad nauseam can all be put down, and
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Stressing Family ADHD

ADHD is tenacious. When someone with ADHD is stressed, their ADHD responds by getting worse. Worse still, is the problem that occurs in families with ADHD when the ADHD of one family member causes stress for another with ADHD. And this can be in any relationship, parent child, child parent, siblings, it doesn't matter. ADHD does not care to whom you are related or how.
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All Or Nothing

ADHD stands for Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, possibly the worst name going for this particular issue. The only word that is accurate is disorder. Hyperactivity comes a close second, or would do if in fact everyone with ADHD were hyperactive. But the real craw sticking thing for me is that “Attention Deficit” part. I have no deficit of attention. I pay attention all day, every day. I am nothing but attention.
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Three Ways To Work

I live a life of ADHD and I do it rather well I think. I spent a lot of my life not knowing about ADHD and as such, I was certainly unaware that I had it. Then along came the old diagnosis after a half century, and now I spend my days observing things I could have seen all my life but had no frame of reference by which to understand. After the diagnosis, the revelations started coming fast and furious. The number of times I would find myself saying “Aha!” or “OMG, that's why I ...” were frequent, let me tell you.
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