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Let It Go

I've mentioned, maybe, that I'm getting my home ready to sell. You know, let subtle hints drop, maybe once … or twice. Well, you can't blame me for dwelling on it. I've lived here for over thirty years. I'm a bit attached, embedded so to speak. I've sunken into the cracks between the floorboards and the extraction is a bit painful. Additionally, I'm having the worst time organizing, orchestrating and sorting all my belongings. There is so much stuff one acquires over that length of time.
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ADHD, Lead Or Follow

So, you know someone with ADHD. You've actually become involved with them. They're a friend. Maybe a good friend. Maybe this could become a relationship. But the ADHD thing has you a little worried. You aren't sure how that will impact this situation. And you also think you want to help, but you don't know how you could help … or even if you should help.
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ADHD Back On Medication

I'm serious. I'm thinking about this. I'm thinking this is something I could do that would be positive. And yes, I mean back on medication. Yes, I've been on medication. And yes, it did help. So now you're asking why I'm not currently medicated, right? Okay, some of you are asking that, and some of you may just be saying, “Who cares?” And some of you may even be screaming at your screens saying, “DON'T DO IT!!! Where to start ... lets start at the beginning. When I was first diagnosed, my diagnosis came with a recommendation that I be given a prescription for Methylphenidate. You'd know it by its more common name of
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Where ADHD Belongs

I don't feel as out of place now as I used to. It's true that before my diagnosis I used to just assume that the feeling of not really belonging was something everyone had, but I still had that feeling. Presently, I often feel that way still, but there are places where I can forget about it easily enough. Since the changes to my life that have occurred in the last eight or so years, I've found several sub-communities that feel like they are made of people like me. Some of those communities acknowledge the ADHD among us. Informal support groups like those that spring up on
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ADHD, What It’s Like

Having ADHD is like being normal, 'cause for me, it is normal. I've never been any other way. To me, people without ADHD are the oddballs. No offense, but from where I sit, they're really quite strange. I mean, really, how can you live with a brain that moves that slow? It's like it must be stuck in low gear or something. And then they're always stopping to think. How does that even make sense? “Let me stop and think about that for a minute ...” Really? Stop what? Thinking? I say, “Let me think about that, along with everything else I'm currently pondering!”
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ADHD Has No Choice?

If you don't have ADHD, then you may not know these things. But that's okay, I'm going to tell you, then you will know. You may think that ADHD is being absent minded. That's not true. Our minds are never absent, they are always present, they just like to be present in way to many trains of thought. We can't help that. You may think that we have too many things on the go. That's not entirely true either. We do try to multitask, even though nobody can multitask really. Not even computers truly multitask. They do what everyone does, they allot slices of
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Stress And ADHD

I knew this was going to be hard. I knew it going in. I psyched myself up for it, charged my mind, prepared myself. Or so I thought. I'm quite sure that it would have been much worse if I hadn't, but I'm wondering if I could ever have made myself completely ready for this. And I'm not talking about moving. I haven't sold my house yet. Haven't even listed it yet. No, we're in the “staging” … er, stage. And I'm stressed; yep, I'm stressing about the dressing. The house, my house, is great. But the art of staging, as I understand it, has more to do with leaving everything, or as much as possible, up to the imagination without making the place look vacant.
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ADHD And Exhaustion

I'm tired. Like, really tired. I have more than three jobs. It's like three and a half, actually. And that's just my normal life. I write blogs, I write fiction, and I write music. And the half job? I play the music I write whenever I get a chance. I'm also a contractor at times, though I'm trying to retire from that. All this is the norm for me Yes, it is, but right now is not a normal time in my life.
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ADHD Is Not A Talent

When I was born, there was only me. I was all there was in this body, in this mind. And I was enough for a long time. I was good enough, I was happy enough, I was smart enough. Then as I got older, like all children, it became apparent that there were things I was good at and things I was not so good at. Now everyone has things they're good at. We call that talent, and we try to help people capitalize on those things. And as to the things that we're not so good at, we often just learn to avoid the situations where the need for those skills might arise.
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Life Expectancy And ADHD

I have no statistics on ADHD and life expectancy. I have no idea if there are actuary tables on ADHD, but there should be. You see, there are studies that suggest we end up in the emergency room more often than the statistically defined average person, and there is one strange statistic floating around out there that says we are more likely to die from accidental poisoning than that same mythical statistically average person. We get more speeding tickets than others, not collectively, but a thousand randomly selected people with ADHD will have received more speeding tickets than a thousand randomly selected people without ADHD.
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