Archives for Anxiety


The Trouble With ADHD

So I may be in trouble. I'm not sure. The truth is that I may have missed an appointment. Or, I might have been supposed to do something, for someone, maybe ... I don't know.

I have a friend who moved. That friend used to live in another friends home. The other friend still gets mail for the friend who moved and when that happens, I get to deliver it.

Just such a piece of mail arrived the other day and was handed off to me. I got in touch with its intended recipient and made arrangements to meet on Thursday to exchange pleasantries, coffee and the above mentioned missive. I remember hanging up the phone and thinking, “That's two appointments on Thursday morning.”
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ADHD Overwhelmed!

Have you had a busy afternoon lately? Or maybe a busy day? What about a busy week? Have you had one of them ever?

Not me. I don't have busy afternoons. I don't have busy days or weeks. I don't even have busy months or years.

I have a busy life. I have a busy, busy, busy life. I know this because I can't keep up with other people even though I go faster than them.
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ADHD, Making It Work

I didn't get inspired today. That happens. That's why it's ten o'clock at night and I'm sitting here just starting to write now.

But of course I do have something to write about. I was out on the town tonight, at an open mic. And I was in exactly the right place for me to be, even though I was there when I should have been in my office writing this blog post.

You see it reminded me that, like most people with ADHD, I've had many different hobbies, and many different jobs. And that's the way it is for us.

And now that I'm older, and more importantly, now that I know that this is normal, I'm trying to make the many hobbies into several jobs so that I can support myself by doing the things I enjoy.
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An ADHD Storm

There's a storm coming. And it's going to be a big one. By the time you are able to read this I'll be seriously contemplating staying in and going no where. The weather prognosticators are saying that would be a good plan.

Some times storms can be amazing. And part of that is the enforced break. I notice that on the rare occasions when I'm forced to stop running, to settle and wait, that I actually enjoy the rest.

True, my mind is still darting around looking for things that it can occupy itself with. But so what? That's the way my mind is. It's like an engine that has no gear box. It's direct drive. Once it's started, it just keeps making that wheel go around. So when the belt slipped off the wheel back when I was “developing” this wild brain, there was no way to put it back on.
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ADHD, Fatal Or Not?

I was reading a post I'd been led to by social media, and I came across a reference to ADHD being a medical diagnosis. The writer of the reference compared being diagnosed with ADHD to being diagnosed with Diabetes.

Points were made about Diabetes causing lifelong health issues and potentially death. The writer then said that ADHD was, by comparison, only a behavioral issue. But that writer then went on to say that life long effects of social anxiety and poor self esteem were pretty damaging also.

The writer was defending the people who deal with ADHD, and doing it rather well. Passion was definitely evident.
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ADHD In Shadow And Light

There can be a lot of differences in lives with ADHD depending on where the light shines in them, and where the shadows fall. Acceptance or denial can mean so much in the long run.

Let's consider two boys, the same age, in the same grade, in similar schools, in similar towns, each with ADHD.

Let's call them Art and Bert. Sorry if your name is Art or Bert, this is a fictional scenario, so this isn't you. This is them. And here they are:
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A Little Help From Yourself

Holidays are times of stress. Yes, there's joy and family and planned fun. But not for everyone.

And sometimes, along with the stress, there is pain. This is the time of year we miss the ones who are no longer with us. Whether they're still alive but gone their own ways, or whether they've run their race and crossed that line to whatever is waiting next for us, if anything is.

And sometimes the stress is far more poignant, because the problems of separation are fresh wounds that happened just a few months or weeks or maybe even days ago.
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At Home, With or Without ADHD

I thought I might sell my home a year ago, but I'm still in it. It isn't that I can't make up my mind, it's that I just keep putting things off.

The truth is that I need to do this. My doctor wants me to either find employment that isn't so hard on me physically, or just stop doing the parts that are hard on me.

Well, unless my doctor is willing to take on my mortgage payments, I'm going to have to disappoint her ... or I'm going to have to lose the mortgage payments.

Now the truth is that my house, once the home of my late wife and I, is about three or four times bigger than I need for myself. And even better is the fact that it's worth more than my mortgage. So much more that I could
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Through The ADHD Looking Glass

The wardrobe led to Narnia. And the rabbit hole led to Wonderland. And books led me into worlds that completely engrossed me.

Now that's pretty normal for a reader, especially one whose appetite for the written word was as huge as mine.

And since I often would go wandering in my mind into stories of my own creation, I never thought anything was unusual about the times I would suddenly realize that some period of time had passed and I had fallen behind again.

But it wasn't always daydreaming or reading that caused the time loss. In fact, I can't really say even now with six years of life with a diagnosis behind me what it is that causes that.

There are days when I start out contemplating my agenda and the next thing I know
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Drop The ADHD Anxiety

I am not telling you that you don't have troubles. If you've got ADHD, you've got troubles.

I'm also not telling those of you that believe ADHD is a gift that you're wrong. There are those among us who use the uniquenesses of this disorder to their advantage. I believe I do that in many ways.

But I'm not going to deny that the disorder also has its drawbacks.

And technically, if you view it as a gift without negative consequences than you aren't actually eligible for a diagnosis. One of the criteria for diagnosis of ADHD is the negative impact on your life.

So I'm in the middle here. Gift? Meh, probably. Curse? Yep.
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