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I am not telling you that you don't have troubles. If you've got ADHD, you've got troubles.
I'm also not telling those of you that believe ADHD is a gift that you're wrong. There are those among us who use the uniquenesses of this disorder to their advantage. I believe I do that in many ways.
But I'm not going to deny that the disorder also has its drawbacks.
And technically, if you view it as a gift without negative consequences than you aren't actually eligible for a diagnosis. One of the criteria for diagnosis of ADHD is the negative impact on your life.
So I'm in the middle here. Gift? Meh, probably. Curse? Yep.
I read a lot about ADHD. And I don't limit my reading to the scientific studies, although that is certainly some of what I read.
I also read blogs like mine from people who experience ADHD first hand.
Additionally I read posts from clinicians and mental health care providers. Most of these people know what they're talking about. Good thing too, they're who many of us lean on for help.
But I also read things from people who like to pretend that they are presenting a well thought out and equally supported alternate theory or two about ADHD.
I heard something funny the other night at a party. I know it was funny, everyone laughed. Everyone including me, I laughed. I laughed and laughed.
You should have heard it, you'd probably have laughed also. You might have laughed like the others in the room, they all thought it was funny. Or you may have laughed like I did. I said I thought it was funny also. But I actually didn't know.
I had heard it, whatever it was, but I didn't absorb it. I had missed a key phrase at the beginning. I think that the grammatical structure at the beginning was ambiguous, and as I tried to figure out which way round that was supposed to be, I missed much more.
Have you taken the ADHD tests online yet? There are at least three of them. And while they aren't valid as a diagnosis, they are a place for you to start exploring, if you feel that ADHD might be an issue for you.
It should be noted that these tests might also be used by the mental health care professional that assesses you, if you do seek a diagnosis. It should also be noted that they may well give you other tests for other disorders as a form of differential diagnosis. Basically, that just means that, since some of the symptoms of ADHD can be found in other disorders, and since you likely won't have all the symptoms that are associated with ADHD, they want to rule out the possibility that you have some other disorder instead of (or as well as) ADHD.
There are lots of times that I feel like I've been stopped dead in my tracks. Sometimes, leading up to that, I can see quite clearly the next step or steps I should take. Then something happens.
What happens? I don't know. Indecision, over thinking, confusion … maybe all of those things?
It's like I'm suddenly responsible for the outcome of everything, for the well being of the universe, for the outcome of the entire history of humanity.
Research into the cause or causes of ADHD and into the possibilities of managing, treating or even eradicating symptoms of ADHD is important work. And that research needs to continue.
There are, however, some important issues that need to be cleared up. Issues regarding the interpretation of information that is shared by researchers.
The potential for false logic to be applied is great in this instance, and we need to be on guard for it at all times. I cannot stress this enough. People will lie to you and use statistics to back up their lies.
I've been told that I have anger management issues, and I can't even begin to tell you how ticked off that made me feel.
Apparently some people believe that those of us with ADHD get angry easier and more often than people without.
The truth for me is that I get angry when I'm frustrated. And if I'm frustrated by someone unable to understand that I'm not angry … well, it's a pointless debate for me to engage in because I can't win. If I'm right, the frustration will soon leave me angry and then no one will believe I'm not angry, because I no longer am. Not angry, that is.
For people with ADHD, relaxing is something we just barely understand the idea of. And while we are aware of how it is supposed to work, few of us have truly experienced relaxation for more than a moment or two at a time.
In fact, for some of us, the thought of sitting still and quiet is unnerving. And actually doing that? Sitting still and quiet? That's been a threat of punishment for us since grade school.
What exactly is relaxing? For most of the world, relaxing involves sitting still and meditating or maintaining our mind calmly and quietly. Often when people “go” to relax it involves finding a place where responsibilities don't exist and then wallowing in that lack of responsibility.
One of the most needed commodities in the life of a person with ADHD, is acceptance. Many of us seem to crave positive social interaction.
Yet, when our social interactions take on a negative caste, many of us are understanding of that. It's as if we just believe that we don't deserve to have positive experiences. Or as if we were trying to hide our flaws, but had to admit that, of course they would be discovered.
But I've become aware of an interesting thing with regards to acceptance. It seems to be contagious.
If you have ADHD you know that we have issues with time perception and time management. And If you read my blog with any sort of regularity you know that I often talk about that.
And the truth is, that I'm not running out of discussion about ADHD and time ... but I am getting low on clever blog post titles.
Today's post is about being busy. And that's what's happening in my world. I'm having a busy June, A busy Spring and a busy 2015.