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A while ago, a friend of mine whom we'll call Bob was telling an anecdote about working some years earlier as an apple picker. It seems that when the pickers got thirsty they had a bucket of water and a ladle. One of the pickers asked the boss if the water was “fresh.” Bob tells this part with a grin, “The boss told the fellow 'That water is about two billion years old.'” Sometimes things aren't perceived the way they really are. Sometimes they just look different. But sometimes we're not looking at those things from the correct angle.
The Olympics have just ended. Did you watch them? Maybe you were one of the ones who attended? Maybe you even participated, some athletes have ADHD. I find the concept to be amazing. The Olympics are that collection of games that have set rules and regulations calculated to level the playing field for the athletes. This is done so that only the skill and the results of their training impact the athlete's standing at the end of each competition.
Have you heard that old encouraging adage, “fake it 'til you make it?” That's where you pretend you know what you're doing and hope to learn as you go. It involves two things, observation of what needs doing and how, as best you can, and of course, learning from your mistakes … and learning really quickly. For those of us with ADHD, the first part is actually quite a bit easier than one might think it should be. If we're engaged in a “fake it 'til you make it” activity, there's a good chance
I got decision making skills. I'm good at it. I make snap decisions and long drawn out decisions, I can ponder over things for ever and end up making no decision until it's too late. I'm telling you, I can do it all. I can decide things before I even realize there's a decision to be made. Those are called snap decisions. I used to refer to myself as being decisive, now I'm more likely to call it reckless. These days I'm also known to recant when I make one of those decisions, one of those reckless ones. I don't always, but I have done. The thing is I feel less compulsion to stand behind a bad decision knowing that I made it in a reckless way and knowing that my ADHD is at least partly at fault for that.
Do you code? Do you write computer programs? Apps for phones or tablets? Do you work with hypertext or Java or any of the other information display languages? If you do, then you know how easy it is for a bit of erroneous code to send things into … well, hell. And whether you do or not, you may know that programmers sometimes present pseudo-code to people as a substitute to explain what a program is supposed to do. Not real code but something half way between human communication and a high end programming language.
There are two kinds of people in this world. Those who divide the worlds population into groups, and those who don't. Obviously, I am in the first group. There are many other criteria for dividing up the population, gender, skin pigment, political leanings, and so on. And without exception, the divisions should only be applied for the sake of statistical analysis. Never for application of service or restriction of same should populations be divided. But there are other divisions that we might study as well. There are those who
Ability to focus or not, I can work on things. But I don't want to talk about focus today. Nor do I want to talk about hyperfocus, or whether it exists, or whether it should be called perseveration, or whether it can be used to our advantage ... Nor do I want to discuss how long it can take one of us to do a large project and see it through to the end. Some of us can, most of us struggle, some of us fail. 'Nuff said. I also don't want to talk about time perception, or time management, though I do want to talk about
I've had a hard weekend. I've been spinning like a whirling dervish trying to get all the work done on my house so that it will be ready to sell. I'm not complaining, mind you, not about the work. I'm complaining about the “extra work” that ADHD brings on. When you're trying to fix things up, clean things, store things, there's a lot of coordination that has to go on. For instance, if you put all your tools away, you'd better know where you put certain ones away. You'll need the hammer to pull nails out of walls when the home stager takes down all your
Sometimes when I write about ADHD, and I go back days or weeks later and reread what I wrote, I think, “That's not really what it's like. Well, it is, but it isn't always like that.” And I realize that ADHD is kind of like being on the ocean. One day could be calm and peaceful, the surface as flat as glass, the next could be a raging storm tossed mess. Most days would have you experiencing some kind of chop or swell or rolling waves. At ten past five on this lovely Friday morning, the pot rack in my kitchen came crashing down. That's kind of a jarring experience at the best of times, but it's much worse when you get to experience it during a deep sleep.
Can I tell you something? Just between you and I? I can? Good. Well, keep this to yourself, but Having ADHD is really weird. I mean, it isn't weird on a day to day basis. That part is more … annoying. Yeah, annoying, annoying in a “Holy crap, this having ADHD really sucks and blows big time!” annoying. 'Cause, you know, there's all the damned symptoms, and you can't watch them all, right? So while you're trying to stay focused, you end up making mistakes. When you're trying not to make mistakes, you end up procrastinating. When you're trying not to procrastinate, you end up forgetting stuff and that causes distraction and mistakes and …