All year long I blog about what I learn about ADHD, what I think about ADHD, and what I think isn’t true about ADHD. I also add posts about how I feel people with ADHD should work hard to feel good about themselves.
But I realize that I don’t often write about the thoughts of others with ADHD.
So I went to one of my online support groups and I asked a seasonal question.
Last night I sang. I am a member of a choir of over 100 voices, and last night I sang. We did a show, in an old church that’s been turned into a community centre. We did it last night, and I sang.
I didn’t sing a solo part, I was part of the mid range group. In a more formal choir it would likely be referred to as the tenors.
We didn’t do seasonal music, it was more contemporary. It was meant to be cheerful, uplifting, celebratory, but not in celebration of anything formal.
It’s that time of year again. Wild spending on food and decorations and gifts for people to help celebrate whatever it is you and your family celebrate.
And traditions, oh the traditions. Dishes to prepare, songs to be sung, visits to share, stockings to be hung … (I’ll try not to slip into rhyme here, but it isn’t easy, darned holiday excitement).
And the days off are exciting too. And even on the days we don’t have off, there is so much more to do.
There are office and school parties to attend. Concerts, both professional and amateur are gotten up at this time of year. Some of them are benefits, so you feel doubly obliged to attend.
Just what is ADHD? I know, there’s a clinical definition. But writing it out here would likely take up the whole post.
There’s examples of development shortfalls and effects that must persist, and situations that produce certain overwhelming feelings and … well, it does go on.
But maybe there’s a shorter way to say it. Or maybe it isn’t shorter, but more understandable. Maybe it would help if I gave some examples of what ADHD is.
I can maintain my focus. I don’t need much to maintain my focus. All I need is a list and an audience.
The night before last I had a job to do. I was the Master of Ceremonies for a concert. I welcomed everyone to the show, made some announcements, and introduced the opening act.
Then I made a few more announcements, and introduced the headliner. All the while I moved people on and off stage, kept track of time, announced the intermission, announced the end of intermission.
I whistle, in the dark.
I consciously look for the light places. I search for the good. I concentrate on the things I love.
And for the most part, I’m a positive person.
I make known my happy and cheerful thoughts and those thoughts come back to me from every corner of my world, magnified and multiplied by those who appreciate hearing good news in their own worlds.
Well, “plays with fire” is more like it.
The truth is we like excitement. We like it a lot. We find the increase in certain chemicals, ones that our bodies produce when we’re excited, to be quite stimulating.
And when you get to the bottom of the ledger, stimulation is what we seek. Chemical stimulation makes our worlds go ’round. If the last moment wasn’t stimulating, we start looking elsewhere for that chemical rush.
There was a time when I thought I was normal.
Okay, you can stop laughing now. What I meant was I thought I was well within the normal spectrum and that, while unique and quirky, I was still just your everyday, average guy.
You’re laughing again, I’ll wait ’til you finish …. done? Good.
Then everything changed and I realized I’d never be within that so called “normal spectrum.”
Well duh!!! In order to have a valid diagnosis your symptoms have to have had a negative impact on your life. That’s one of the rules of the diagnosis. How is that not going to hold you back from success?
But then again, how does ADHD hold you back from success?
And aren’t there some people with ADHD who are successful? Famous ones, in fact?
I listen to people talking about ADHD on a daily basis. I hear them describe the quirks that they live with and the symptoms that invade their lives. I hear them respond to the same descriptions from others.
And it’s amazing to see people come out of their shells. It’s so heart warming to hear them say things like “I thought that was just me, I never realized that other people could be/feel/think that way too.”