That title is a tad misleading I’m afraid. I know there is a slightly higher incidence of obesity among ADHDers, but this post isn’t about body weight. It’s about the measurement of several different aspects of the human/ADHD condition.
When I was first diagnosed, I felt the weight of being officially different settle on me like the weight of the world. I had managed to believe, although I was unique, that I fell within the spectrum of normal. Suddenly I was being told I was … well, not normal.
The weight was increased by the feeling that I had always known I’d been kidding myself. On good days I convinced myself that I was kidding everyone else as well. On bad days I would retreat into total denial. I was normal, anyone who didn’t think that was obviously delusional and, thus, they were the abnormal ones.
With a diagnosis in my hand (it felt more like it was stamped on my forehead), I could no longer engage in that delusion. I was now alone.
But I actually wasn’t. I knew other people with ADHD already. And they were good people.
On Monday I mentioned that the internet had brought me into contact with a great many ADHDers. It felt like I had found my community. And I experienced others “finding their way home” nearly every day.
Coupled with the realization that I am not alone, the further realization that I am this way for a reason justified by my diagnosis began to make my load lighter. I wasn’t purposely being difficult or obtuse, it just seemed that way to people who didn’t understand me.
But there is yet another weight I’d like to talk about. You’ve heard people say that someone or something is “worth their weight in gold,” right? Well, I’m a great believer in the value of a person. But I believe we’re all worth our weight in gold. Some of us are a little light in some areas, but we are heavier in other areas.
Those of us who have ADHD may be considered to be a little light in our memories, our prioritizing, our focus, or in some other area where we don’t necessarily shine. But each of us carries heavier weight in other areas.
Your value isn’t your inabilities, it isn’t your shortcomings, it isn’t your mistakes.
Some of us are empathetic to the sufferings of our fellow humans, some of us are problem solvers, some of us are artistically gifted, some of us are able to help others in ways that only an outside-of-the-box thinker could help.
In the final analysis, in my humble opinion, each human is worth the same. Your value isn’t your inabilities, it isn’t your shortcomings, it isn’t your mistakes. Your value is your abilities, the way you deal with your problems, the things you’ve learned from the mistakes you’ve made.
And if you’re one of us, your value is secured. We know what you’re worth. We know what you’ve gone through to get here.
You’re worth your weight in gold … and we love shiny things like gold.
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Last reviewed: 17 Sep 2013