This may have been a mistake …
Wow, tomorrow is Valentine’s Day? Seems like that just happened 12 months or so ago. What? Are they having it annually now? You’d think I’d have noticed that …
Oh well, luckily, last year, I came up with a list of 5 ways to make your Valentine’s Day an ADHD success. And I put that list in a pile on my desk, a pile of lists, a pile of lists of important things, perhaps ways of making occasions successful or some such thing as that. Now where is it …
The lost and found?
Ah, here it is, in a pile of grocery lists and plumbing receipts. Lets have a quick look. Yes, it’s all still applicable. I maybe should have dug it out a little sooner. Oh well, as our motto reads, “Better late than never, right?”
5 Ways To Make Valentine’s Day Work:
- Set the calendar on your phone, your PDA, your tablet, your laptop, notebook, desktop, all of them to remind you that it’s coming. You know and I know that we’ll remember it’s Valentine’s Day … on Valentine’s Day. It’s a bit late to buy a card then. No it isn’t, but it’s harder to make it look like you’ve been anticipating this.
- Choose a destination carefully. If you’re taking someone out, think carefully before you decide where to go. If you’re going to be distracted while you’re out, you’re not going to have a great end to your evening. The conversation in the car on the way home that begins “Where did you get to this evening …?” is a bad start to the potentially romantic part of the day.
- Choose a destination carefully. If you’re taking someone out, think carefully before you decide where to go. Yep, this looks like #2, but this is the exact opposite. If you’re going to be bored, you’re not going to have a great end to your evening, either. The conversation in the car on the way home that begins “Do you know how loud you were snoring?” is also a bad start to the potentially romantic part of the day.
- Plan ahead. Decide on a gift before you go shopping. If you go shopping with no gift in mind, you’re going to buy your girlfriend a new rechargeable hammer-drill. I don’t know your girlfriend, maybe she’d like that, but it’s more likely that you like it, and you bought it impulsively, and now your credit card is maxed out. If you hadn’t already used it yourself, you might be able to return it for something she would like, but … ooops, there was this hole that needed drilling.
So, have a plan, and stick to it.
- Be easy on yourself. This is the most important one. If you’re alone for Valentine’s, make yourself comfortable. Plan on doing something you enjoy, reading a book, watching a movie, going for a walk. If you have plans with someone, step past the forgotten things and make the most of the things you can do. Remember, you’re not St. Valentine. Don’t beat yourself up over it. If you do, you’ll just make it okay for others to do that to you as well.
There you have it …
If I could list a sixth tip, it would be: If you’re a blogger, and you write about ADHD in the hopes that you might help those who, like you, suffer from this disorder, make sure you know when Valentine’s Day is. You’ll probably want to write a blog post of tips to help your people deal with this high pressure holiday. And you’ll want to publish it well in advance of the day itself. A week or two prior to Valentine’s day would probably be best. A couple of days in advance would be better than nothing. The day before Valentine’s Day, as any fool will tell you, is too late to be of any real help.
Wrapping it up
So those are my tips. I’d like to answer any and all questions you might have, but first, I have very little time left to get to the hardware store, there’s a sale on hammer-drills.
What are your plans for Valentine’s Day?
Last reviewed: 12 Feb 2013
Babcock, K. (2013). 5 Ways To Make Your Valentine’s Day An ADHD Success!. Psych Central.
Retrieved on March 1, 2015, from http://blogs.psychcentral.com/adhd-man/2013/02/5-ways-to-make-your-valentines-day-an-adhd-success/