We are constantly on the go, jammed into high gear, yet we get so little done. In any given day, we can list dozens of things that we didn’t do, but there’s no list of things we did do. We have the high test, formula one engine, but our tires are bald and we’re driving on ice.
And, as you can imagine, that’s a source of anxiety for us. We are hurtling toward the end of our days and worrying about judgment. Not judgment day, just day to day judgment by family, employers, colleagues, peers, spouse.
I don’t have a cut and dried answer to that. But I do know that we can’t fix something we don’t understand. So let’s take a look at what causes this.
In my opinion, the causes can be divided into two groups. The first group is a list of effects or traits that our symptoms cause. These effects and traits impact our day’s efforts. Symptoms are what ADHD is all about, so that’s where we have to look for reasons for our problems, if we’re going to fix those problems. And the effects or traits I’ve found that cause me the most disruption are as follows:
The second list is very short. It’s the list of things that skew our perception of our accomplishments. Even if we list them, take as long as we need to remember every one of them, we still don’t feel the accomplishment. Even if others rave about the things on that list, it’s often the best we can do to admire the list as the greatest of them.
And why is it that we don’t believe our accomplishments are that great? Read on:
” … we’re so good at negating ourselves, this is just icing on the bitter cake of discrediting self evaluation.”
That would be the end of the list in my opinion. It takes little to negate our deeds, and we’re so good at negating ourselves, this is just icing on the bitter cake of discrediting self evaluation.
There is an old saying in journalism, “You’re only as good as your last story.” If you have ADHD, your last accomplishment wasn’t your last “big” accomplishment, it was finding your car keys, if you were lucky. How are you supposed to feel good about that?
If I write a great article for some publication and get feedback from the publisher telling me it’s good, I’m happy. Then I’ll log on to twitter and put my foot in my mouth in 140 characters. There’s how good I am, that last tweet. I’ve committed twittercide and that’s what will be on my mind.
We get lots done, we just don’t get that it’s good.
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Last reviewed: 16 Jan 2013