1 New Years Resolution To End All New Years Resolutions
When it comes to resolutions, I don’t have a great track record. But, I’ve come up with one I want to try to keep, and I think I have a chance at it.
I resolve to never make another New Years Resolution as long as I live … after this one.
I know that sounds like a cop-out. Maybe it is. But I don’t think so.
I have given this a fair bit of thought and I’ve come to some conclusions.
Resolutions are born of regrets. The year is ending and for some reason we feel this is the end of our opportunity to be successful for this time period.
In all reality, the year end is an arbitrary assignment of a date. A year ends every day. On July 2nd it’s exactly one year since the last July 2nd. What are you going to do about it, make a bunch of resolutions? Nope. But why? It’s your last chance to be successful in that year that ends on July 2nd.
Okay, if I haven’t made my point by now, it’s because I’m not writing clearly enough. So I’ll just say it bluntly. Resolutions? Forget about it!
The fact is we all want more success. We want to be comfortable in our lives, in our work and family settings. And we want to worry less about ourselves, our futures and our behaviour.
All well and good, but resolving to manifest some monumental change is just setting ourselves up for failure and disappointment, hardly a recipe for success.
We already spend lots of energy listing failures, a resolution is a do or die proposition. We define them in such a way that to drop the ball once is the failure that ends our attempt.
If we could resolve to be more active, for instance rather than saying we’re going to run five miles every day, then if we walk in the park one day instead of running that five miles, so be it.
But there will be days when we don’t even walk to the mailbox. Are we done with the whole thing? If we say no then every day that we don’t accomplish our goal is another failure. Great, one resolution, multiple failures. Are we getting better yet?
Let’s try something new.
This is my plan … I’m going to try to journal my way to a better life.
I know, I’m already journaling, I write a blog. But the journal I’m going to try doesn’t resemble blogging at all. It looks more like a to do list in past tense.
On a positive note …
I’m going to keep a done list. Each day, I’m going to write down anything I’ve done that I’m proud of accomplishing. I want to give myself positive reinforcement.
On the down side …
I’m also going to list the things I wish I had done that I didn’t and the things I wish I’d done less. I’m not trying to beat myself up here, but I want to see if I can become aware of my shortfalls, and maybe fix them. It may be as simple as saying to myself “This is what I did yesterday that I wrote about in my journal. Am I sure I want to do this again?”
On being realistic …
Maybe it won’t work, but maybe it will. One thing is certain, I’m never gonna make another resolution again. I’m just going to try to find ways to improve my chances of success.
Resolved: I’m Never Making New Years Resolutions Again!
And so I officially resolve to never make another New Years resolution again, as long as I live, but to never give up on my life either.
Happy New Year, everyone, from your Man of DistrAction.
Babcock, K. (2012). 1 New Years Resolution To End All New Years Resolutions. Psych Central. Retrieved on August 1, 2015, from http://blogs.psychcentral.com/adhd-man/2012/12/the-1-new-years-resolution-to-end-all-new-years-resolutions/