I know, I’ve been dwelling a lot on relationships this month, a hazard of my personal situation. Loss makes you feel alone.
I also know I should be talking about the holidays and the stress they bring as a special gift for those of us with ADHD. But this post isn’t as far off the mark as you might think.
For those of us who are spending the holidays alone, the urge to “repair” this situation may be rather strong. And the new-age techno way of doing that is from the comfort of your home through online social networks that are geared toward matching you with that perfect someone.
While I’m not tempted to head out onto the info-bahn to find that perfect ether-mate – yet – I am willing to concede that it is an option for many of today’s lonely hearts.
There are issues in our lives that may not look so good on a dating service profile page. Our occupations and hobbies lists, for instance, might make for interesting reading in a self help book or blog post, but where does one start when reading an ADHDer’s info while looking for a date?
So, below is my profile. There are some items I’ve found on other peoples profiles, and some samples of what I might have written, if I were looking for love in all the wired places.
It’s hard for us not to blurt out embarrassing things in public, but on a dating site we should be able to edit that stuff out, right? It seems, however, that filling in a profile page is too overwhelming.
And apparently some people get way too bored and distracted, adding things that may be way too much information, TMI as those of us who are embedded in social networking often say. Are these the ADHDers? Good chance, I’d say.
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NET-ONE-NOW.CALM
Relationship: Relationship Interest: OnTheGo is looking for an easy going person who can keep up but won’t be offended if I don’t show up on time … or at all. Relationship History: The fewest number of relationships OnTheGo has been in in a calendar year while not being married is: 4 Hobbies and Jobs: Hobbies: Too numerous to mention. Okay, here’s a few, photography, reading, hiking, swimming, fishing, boating, motorcycling, bicycling, playing hockey, skating, snowshoeing, travelling, creating stained glass, watching movies, cooking, gardening, woodworking, canoeing, dating, writing, origami, social networking and the list goes on … Jobs: Easier to list what I haven’t done. Oh, I do have a job though – this week anyway. I’d put down what it is but it might change soon and I wouldn’t remember to update it here, so … I was a Third Generation Walmart Greeter until I go fired. Who knew you couldn’t ask for a woman’s phone number when you greeted her? About Me:
First Encounter: As a first encounter I think it would be best to get to know each other, so I think a nice motorcycle ride followed by a hike, dinner and a movie and maybe a game of pool, drinks, a bike ride and going camping would be great.
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ADHD Dating Website Profiles or How I Met Your Mother – Psych Centra (December 16, 2011)
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