Making ADHD Work

By Kelly Babcock
How to employ a winner

How to employ a winner

Last night I was at a concert. During intermission, I got talking with a friend of mine who runs a local business. I mentioned that I had a 6:30 AM deadline for my blog, and that I wasn’t sure what I’d write about.

He asked me why I didn’t just write about the fact that anyone who wants their business to be a success should hire someone with ADHD.

I looked at him like I had questions … which I did. I took out my pen and pad of paper and said “What makes you say that?”

So he began to tell me the reasons someone with ADHD was, in his opinion, essential to running a successful business.

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How Did I Get So Old

By Kelly Babcock
Younger than I feel, older than I remember

Younger than I feel, older than I remember

I need to write this post quickly, before I forget what I’m writing about. Wait, is that old age that causes that?

Or is it ADHD. In actuality, I’m only 55 … but geez, even saying that makes me think “Who? Me? 55? Really?”

You see, I feel, mentally that I’m 18. Also, I feel emotionally like I’m 25. All right, all right, 22.

And while I have, in fact, a rather remarkable memory for things that have happened and for mostly useless bits of trivia, I don’t remember enough to be able to feel like I’ve lived for 55 years.

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On The Road Of Life With ADHD

By Kelly Babcock
Get on board the magic bus ...

Get on board the magic bus …

I’ve noticed that a lot of ADHD references involve transit. Dr. Edward Hallowell often talks about us having Ferrari engines and bicycle brakes.

I’ve talked about our thoughts being like the tracks in a rail yard where all the switches randomly shunt our focus around from one siding to another.

And we all know how rapid our minds can work, jetting from one place to another with little use for tickets, passports or connection schedules.

So it’s little wonder that I got thinking about my ADHD yesterday while I rode the bus.

I guess I should tell you first off, I’ve never ridden the bus in my town before yesterday. So naturally, when a thing called “Transit Tuesday” came up, I got myself a one dollar day long bus pass and I got me onto the bus.

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There Are Things I Need In My Life

By Kelly Babcock
... you get what you need

… you get what you need

Being a rural Canadian, there are naturally some things I need. I need to see the Canadians play hockey whenever they’re playing on the world stage.

I need to be submersed in fresh water several times each summer season, and that doesn’t mean in swimming pools.

I need some snow each year, and I need some sun. It’s the way it is. I can’t help it.

Being a person with ADHD, there are other things I naturally need. I need to be challenged in order to be able to focus. I need notes in order to be able to keep track of things I’d easily forget, and sometimes still do.

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What Did I Just Tell You?

By Kelly Babcock

 

The key to success ... might be one of these ...

The key to success … might be one of these

What did I say on Wednesday? What were those fateful words? Yeah, I don’t remember either, let’s look them up.

Here they are, “And what about all those things you’ve been unable to keep track of that have caused you so much aggravation? Sure we can call that a flawed memory, but we could also look at it as training in the fine art of trouble shooting, of salvaging situations when they go pear shaped. And we didn’t get good at that by being normal, did we?”

And on Monday, I was talking about being overwhelmed. In that post I said, “Some missteps can be lessons, and I’m always ready to learn. True, I have to experience some lessons an inordinately large number of times, but eventually I clue in.”

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Lesson Learned

By Kelly Babcock
Okay, the numbers still check out ...

Okay, the numbers still check out …

Have you had enough of being considered unusual and different? Have you had enough of being judged and found wanting?

Or do you line up with those who are judging you? Do you agree with those assessments. Do you wish you could “cure” yourself? Do you wish someone could offer you a cure?

If it’s a cure you’re wanting, there is hope. But it’s not maybe the kind of hope you were … well, hoping for.

It’s not a change in the way you are or the way your brain works. It’s a change in your perception.

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Overwhelm Me Now, I Can Take It

By Kelly Babcock
A bit more than I can handle at times

A bit more than I can handle at times

A couple of years ago, I wrote a post on being overwhelmed. Actually, it was partly a post on being overwhelmed and partly a post on how not to be overwhelmed, how to fix that situation.
It was also a post on using the word “overwhelm” as a noun, something I’ve heard some of the leaders of our ADHD community do, but I’m still uncomfortable with that.

In that post I pointed out that a friend, one who doesn’t have ADHD, was able to simply point out the next obvious step while I and another friend, one who does have ADHD, were overwhelmed by the inability to isolate that next logical step.

It’s likely a prioritizing thing. And I’m still lousy at that. But I have discovered that if I just pick a step to take, it’s priority will promptly become obvious.

If it’s the wrong one, I just have to back peddle (and hope that I haven’t ruined anything).

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ADHD Can Be Cured By What?

By Kelly Babcock
I'm going to eat this ...

I’m going to eat this …

On Wednesday I published a post in which I said that you can’t cure ADHD with diet.

RonH commented, “Actually, it may be possible to cure ADHD with diet. ADHD is not a disease, but a set of behavioral symptoms. If you are lucky enough to have a doctor who will do a thorough ‘differential diagnosis’, it is often possible to locate and treat the underlying cause of ADHD symptoms. [...]” and so on.

He goes on to talk about a doctor with a book and a diet cure, of course.

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The Best ADHD Medicine Is …

By Kelly Babcock
In search of a cure

In search of a cure

There are lots of treatments for ADHD out there. Sadly, lots of them are drek!

There are the mental exercises that I like to call “mind games” because that’s pretty much all they are. I don’t deny that they help you. They may make you more capable and confident and that’s worth lots. But they will not cure or even treat your ADHD.

However, being more capable and confident should reduce stress. And ADHD is a context sensitive disorder, stress makes the symptoms more intense and more frequent. So reducing stress should be part of an ADHD treatment regimen.

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Speed Is Relative … Even Mine

By Kelly Babcock
Relative infinity

Relative infinity

I know several couples where one half is diagnosed as having ADHD and the other is not. But on observing the so called Neuro-Typical or NT component of those relationships by themselves, I’m sometimes left wondering if perhaps they aren’t possibly worthy of a diagnosis themselves.

The earth’s circumference is 24,901.55 miles at the equator. If you are standing at the equator, not moving in relation to the ground on which you stand, you are considered to be still. But, since the earth rotates one complete turn every 24 hours, then any given spot at the equator is travelling at 1037.56 miles per hour, and so are you.

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