Asperger's Culture

Would You Get Rid Of Your Disability If You Could?

There's been a lot of stuff about identity in the news lately. With Caitlyn Jenner and Rachel Dolezal making headlines over the past few months, an interesting question comes up. Who gets to decide who we are, ourselves or society? People with disabilities are asking ourselves this question too. Clearly our differences set us apart. But how...
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Living Apart Together: It’s Not Just for Couples

In the years I spent interviewing people about the ways they are living now (for my book, How We Live Now: Redefining Home and Family in the 21st Century), I found one person after another who came up with innovative ways to get the two things they wanted in the proportions they wanted them: (1) the human connection and togetherness they craved, and...
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Hope

Today I Love The Sound Of Caring Music

Today I love the sound of caring music. I love that every time some bad thing happens in my little city, the first responders are so dedicated and do their jobs with passion. I love that I think of many in my community as second responders, the ones that organize the benefits and gather all...
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General

Estranged is Just Strange

Estranged. Such a weird word. Sounds like someone is getting strangled. And it sounds uncomfortable. This is my life right now. I am estranged from my husband. I don’t even know if I can call him a husband anymore. What is the correct term? Ex-husband. No papers have been signed, but I guess that is what...
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General

Stress isn’t always a bad thing.

When you have bipolar disorder, or any mental illness for that matter, there are things that can exacerbate your symptoms. In psychological circles, these are known as triggers. The trigger that affects me the most is stress. It can totally derail me. It has before. And I never know where exactly it is going...
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General

Sleep: The Best Medicine

Picture this. A long day of working from 8 to 5, you probably skipped breakfast or had a rushed lunch. Finish work only to get home cook dinner, help with homework and act as chauffeur to soccer practice. Where is the time to regroup, meditate and become one with yourself? You guessed it, there...
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Abusive Realtionships

Celebrate The Small Victories

There are times when our illnesses bring us to the lowest points and it's during these times when I find myself fighting to stay afloat. I can't tell you how many times I have cancelled plans with friends at the last minute because anxiety or depression had its hold on me....
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Co-Parenting

Their House, Our House and the In-Between

Sometimes the long to-do lists, shuffling of children between homes, sports practices, camp days and appointments gets to be too much. When days overflow with more activities than hours, it’s hard to figure out how to manage it all between two houses. The truth is, when you have...
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Relationships

How to Connect with Your Partner

When you form a connection with your partner, it means there is an implied understanding of values, a common frame of reference, a series of shared experience and a sense that you are both on the same page. These connections form the bonds that foster trust and promote intimacy.
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addiction

Six Great Movies About Addiction

As some people know, I am in long-term recovery from both heavy alcohol and cocaine use. I am also in recovery from both anorexia and bulimia, all wrapped around a diagnosis of body dysmorphic disorder.  My sobriety date is April 8th 2007.  Being in recovery, I tend to look at movies about addiction and recovery ...
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Hope

Today I Love The Orange Morning Sun

Today I love the orange morning sun lifting out of the dawn mists. I love that it is going to be another hot September day. I love that they are calling for rain this afternoon. I love the way the weather always seems to be the right weather to me, it's a good way...
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