divorce

Are You Becoming Your Parents?

It's one of the most subtle, underlying questions that I hear in various forms nearly every day in my office. Some version of, "Am I going to become like my parents?", or "Please don't let me turn into my parents." Some people believe that they are doomed to the fate of carrying on their parents worst...
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General

Being Alone Versus Lonely

My baby tortoise, Malti, is very comfortable being alone. But when she wants Mommy-time, she lets me know! time. I used to simultaneously crave and dread it. (This was because I was such terrible company to spend...
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ADHD

Apples And Oranges And ADHD

... depending on where you are. In our ongoing series of posts that, although not advertised as such, are aimed at debunking myths associated with ADHD, a decision has been made to address the discrepancy in ADHD diagnoses in North America and Europe. Those who are in the camp that...
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Body

The Worst-Case Scenario if He Doesn’t Call

Last week’s cartoon was about recognizing talent and ability in a person struggling with addiction. Never give up. Miracles happen. For any cartoon you enjoy, you’re invited to share it anyplace except Pinterest. And thank you for sharing every week. For some reason, I can't see Twitter share people any more, but you know who you are. :)
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Diagnosis

5 Ways Sex Addiction Recovery Can Get Derailed

I have heard this story of treatment failure from many couples who come in to see me about sex addiction. One partner was discovered to have sexually addictive behavior(s) such as porn addiction, voyeurism, hook-ups, paying for sex etc. After an initial upheaval the couple found help for the addict. The addict went into...
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Anxiety

What OCD Steals

I have been mildly obsessive compulsive for most of my life.  People don't know this about me because most of what I go through happens in my brain - I wouldn't describe my obsessive compulsive tendencies as being textbook. But as for my internal experience, none of that really matters.  The fear and the panic are...
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coping skills

Therapeutic Writing: An Introduction

It makes sense that writing is helpful for trauma. After all, writing can play a part in any phase of evidenced-based trauma treatment, whether safety and coping improvement, exposure or reintegration. And research has shown that writing can reduce stress, improve coping skills, mood and physical health. and when used in a specifically structured way, writing...
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General

Welcome to Embracing Balance

The world needs more people like Nicole Lyons. She's been a tireless mental health advocate and volunteer to help in the battle to educate the public about mental illness. She lives with bipolar disorder and speaks regularly on the topic of how to help better fund mental health care and suicide prevention. As she says:...
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coping skills

How to Relax

I’ve been feeling it lately. I’m burdened by the thoughts of things I have to do, obstacles I have to overcome and goals I have to achieve. My mom says I need to relax but I’m having a hard time doing it. Things are happening and they’re happening fast and I don’t want to...
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Communication

Expressing Emotions from Childhood

In my office I have a sign that clients can see when they sit in the "client chair." The sign says, "Thou Shalt Not Whine." It's somewhat of a joke, not what people expect when they go see a therapist, but it's also indicative of the way I work. I've never believed in whining—until now....
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